Claire Adrian - Incest, A Way Of Life

None of this ever happens by sheer chance or accident, and we find that there is a very good reason why a teenage girl so frequently turns to one of her own family for her first coital experience, one that coincides with a part of the motivational impulse so frequently encountered in nonvirgins who seduce their brothers or fathers (remember Paula T. in Chapter 2) and how she confessed that she wanted to give her virginity to her stepfather, to a man she loved and trusted).

The reason is security. A young girl, particularly a virgin, feels a certain safety or protective influence from a member of her own family. This is only too true if that member of the family is an older man, an uncle or father or stepfather. So the virgin, feeling curiosity about sex generally, perhaps somewhat ambivalent about her own feelings toward it, often turns to this older relative for her first sexual experience. She might do this either consciously or unconsciously. Naturally, this is all very shocking to the laymen unfamiliar with the knots and tangles of the human libido -doubly shocking since it involves the loss of a girl's virginity. But to the professional, it is not so shocking. To the man of medicine, loss of virginity through incest is more often the rule than the exception.

I include the proximity factor as still another motivational force that brings the loss of virginity and incest together in so very many cases, for despite our enlightened and aggressive times many teenage girls just don't have an opportunity for sex the first time except with a relative. In some geographical areas of the United States there are young people who rarely see another human who is not a relative. Then, too, the proximity of people makes for opportunities that might otherwise not be available-the reason we find so much incest in slum regions. A father and daughter constantly thrown together are more apt to find a sexual attraction for each other, and the opportunity, than a couple who are not related; especially is this true with a very young girl.

Laymen also react with incredulous disbelief when they are told that there are any number of teenage girls who consciously go about the business of seducing an older male relative-brother, uncle, father-convinced that a girl of tender years is simply not capable of such a breach of sexual ethics. Sometimes one can get these uninformed people to admit that adolescents do have sexual urges, but then the question is asked if these strivings aren't supposed to be worked off at sports, jobs, studies, and hobbies?

This is all very fine in theory, that sexual curiosities and energies can be routed into innocent avocations and the like-very fine and very foolish. It means that children are to be guarded from the realities of petting and intercourse until marriage; then they are expected to know everything and adjust instantly to mature sexuality. It means that what we want for our children is that they will not know what we know!

Theory is one thing. Fact is something else-or we wouldn't have teenage girls like Diane W- who, although knowledgeable in the ways of sex and very well aware of her father's fascination with her young body, deliberately went out of her way to have her father instigate and initiate what might be called a "reverse" seduction.

Diane's action proves that teenaged girls, bent on incest, can be extremely intelligent in mapping out their campaigns of seduction. Diane is also remarkably free from any guilt in connection with the seduction; at least there is no indication of such in her narrative.

The main reason why incest is so dangerous is because it causes guilt and psychic trauma. Incest also acts as a deterrent to family unity, and the family is the unit most responsible for imparting techniques of survival, morals, goals, and ethics.

In spite of what most people think, a properly and considerately performed sex act will not have a serious impact or damage on a teenager or even a subteenager. However, guilt and recriminations can have serious impact, and it is always the guilt and recrimination that cause the most damage.

Nevertheless, and quite logically, the persons most capable of initiating youngsters to sex relations are, by nature, responsible and considerate-and that is why they do not commit incest, unlike adults who are less mature. This presumes, of course, that incest is always initiated by an adult and that girls such as Diane W- are nonexistent-and for every teenage seductress who succeeds, there are perhaps 50 more who don't, either because the adult is morally responsive or too unsophisticated to realize the girl's intention. It still takes two for the act of incest. If the girl is clever and determined, and the man is weak, morally, then we have a case similar to Diane W- and her "'Do you want me to, daddy? Do you want me to suck your peter?'

"'Yes, oh yes. I would love you all the more if you did,' He paused, as if thinking of something very important, and then said, We'll go down to the kitchen, and I'll show you how to fellate me down there.'

"Having no idea why we should go to the kitchen to have a suck-session, but nevertheless intrigued, I went along with daddy. Once in the kitchen, daddy went to the refrigerator and took out a small can of chocolate syrup, the kind you pour over ice cream. Wondering what he was up to, I watched as he went over and sat down on the edge of the table. Then he said, ‘Diane, honey, pull up a chair and sit in front of me. That way you will be more comfortable when you suck, uh, when you fellate me. That's the proper term, you know. But I suppose you learned that in Sex Education.'

"'Yes, daddy,' I said in an obedient voice, taking a chair and placing it in front of him. I sat down and found that by leaning slightly forward in his direction I could easily slide my mouth over his erect peter and even play with his nuts at the same time-as daddy had suggested when we came down the stairs.

"I continued to play it very dumb, as if I had never sucked a cock before in my life.

"'How do I begin, daddy?' I asked. 'Is there any special way a wife sucks a husband's penis?'

"Hearing my question, dad's face lit up like a neon sign. 'Did your Sex Education teach you, I mean-did you learn about what wives do with the semen when they suck their husbands-when the man comes in their mouth?' He looked curiously at me.

"The wives spit out the semen, don't they, daddy?' At least I did when I fellated a date-nor had I feared anything about peter-sucking in school. But older girls, who were seniors, had, and they had told me that what the wife did with the come was simply not mentioned.

"Again in daddy's eyes there appeared that light of serious thought. 'Diane, honey, your mother… she always swallows my com-my semen when she fellates me. It's always more pleasurable for me when she does that. Do you think you'd like to swallow it when I come?'

"No, I didn't think I would-but I said, ‘If you want me to, daddy,' I knew what would happen and how to prevent it. At the moment of orgasm, he would attempt to ram his peter down my throat, an effort that would not succeed, not if I used the same method I always used with my dates. All a girl had to do was clamp her teeth around the base of the head and hold firm, this preventing the cock from proceeding down her throat.

"Daddy was very excited, thinking I was going to swallow his goo-goo. I still wondered what he was going to do with that stupid can of chocolate syrup. I soon found out when he said, 'Well, honey, let's get started. I'll show you how to suck it. First I'll prepare my penis like I did for your mother on our wedding night.'

"Pulling back on the foreskin, he exposed the rose-pink head and slowly tilted the can of chocolate syrup, letting the dark gooey stream drip onto the head of his cock just enough to cover it and-as he said-'flavor' it. 'You can pretend you're eating chocolate candy when you suck it,' daddy said. 'And there won't be much come for you to swallow-only about a spoonful. It won't taste bad at all, dear. Why, you won't even taste the saltiness because of the chocolate. Yes, it will taste just like hot chocolate.'