Sadie Allison - Tickle His Pickle - Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing

Be comfortably numb.Try applying a topical numbing cream designed to desensitize the head of the penis.

Your wrist is breaking. Your jaw is aching. Your neck is shaking. And still no quake-ing. Why doesn’t he come already?

Even if you’ve tried every rhythm, stroke and caress in the book, some guys just take a long long time. And some may never come at all. Maybe he needs intercourse. Maybe he can’t come in a condom. Maybe he’s more comfortable with his own hand. Or maybe he just needs time to build trust in you.

You shouldn’t take this personally—you are arousing him. He’s just unable to cross the finish line. Try asking him if there’s anything else he’d like you to try. Perhaps he’d like to show you his favorite stroke himself. Maybe he’s over-stimulated and needs a short break to reset. It could be a prescription medication causing the marathon. Or maybe he simply needs to focus his mind on you, and not life’s stresses.

Be patient, talk about it, and work together to find your solution.

Is he a frequent pickle pumper?If he masturbates at the drop of a hat, it could be his over-yanking thats desensitizing his penis to your mouth or vagina. Suggest he keep his hands off himself for a week or two, and see if his sensitive sensations return.

With sex comes risk. No human being on earth is immune to today’s menu of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)—including you. You must protect yourself.

To practice safe sex means to keep the bodily fluids that can transmit STDs totally separate (blood, semen and vaginal juices). Being prepared shows that you are considerate and that you care about yourself.

Your safest path is to stay totally monogamous—and to get tested to be sure both you and your guy are free of any hidden STDs. But you’ll still need to practice birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancies.

The good news is that many of the erotic techniques in this book are designed to keep sex about as safe as sex can get. You’re pretty safe kissing, licking, nibbling, sucking and massaging your guy everywhere but his private parts. You’re pretty safe giving him the wildest skin-on-skin handjobs you can dream up. And when he rolls on a latex condom, you’re pretty safe giving him the world’s most orgasmic blowjobs.

Roll a latex condom on him.For all vaginal, anal—and yes, oral activities—insist he wear a condom.

Use a condom every time.They’re not only inexpensive, they’re effective. Be sure he’s wearing it correctly, too (see page 140).

Store your condoms wisely.Keep a fresh supply on hand. Don’t leave them in the heat or in a wallet. Never re-use them.And toss‘em after their expiration date. If you open one that looks or feels bad, don’t use it.

Stay sober.Drinking and recreational drugs weaken your assertiveness, lessen your ability to communicate, and make it tougher to focus on putting on a condom correctly. Know when to say ‘when.’

What if either of you is allergic to latex condoms? It maybe the latex, or the nonoxynol-9 spermicide already on the condom. Try a condom without this spermicide, or a polyurethane condom instead. But be aware: polyurethane is less elastic, so it breaks more often. Do not use condoms made of lambskin, since they will not block the transmission of STDs (but they do block sperm and work to prevent pregnancy).

What if he’s uncomfortable in condoms? Trya variety—latex condoms are available in different shapes, sizes and thicknesses, from extra large to snugger fit to wider at the tip. Test-drive a few and find a new favorite!

What if he’s uncircumcised?Gently pull back his foreskin, and then unroll the condom to the base of his penis.

What if you want to share a sex toy?Germs can cling to porous toy surfaces, such as latex—so don’t share! But if you do, put new condoms on your toys before each use.

What if you give a handjob without a condom?You’re safe, as long as you don’t have any fresh cuts, open sores or cracks from chapping on your hands.

What if I go down without him wearing a condom?You can catch a STD—even from his pre-come. Be sure he tests clean before taking this risk.

Put it on him before there is any contact with your mouth, vagina or butt.

Hold it by the tip to squeeze out the air.

No reservoir tip? Leave about ½ inch of space at the tip for his come.

Unroll it over his erect penis, all the way to the base.

After he comes, and before he gets soft, hold the rim of the condom at the base to keep it from slipping off till he is away from you. Then gently remove the condom and flush it, or wrap it in a napkin and toss it in the garbage.

Use a new condom to have sex again.

When lips meet latex.Pick up a plain, non-lubed condom. Before unrolling it, add a couple of drops of water-based lube inside the tip to create pleasurable friction for him.Then drizzle your favorite flavored lube on the outside for the best taste for you. Or try a flavored condom.

Latex.For the safest finger play, slip into a pair of latex gloves—or try finger cots—!atex finger sleeves. They protect against the spread of germs and can create slipperier, sexier sensations. Always use lube.

Dental dams.Create a protective layer between you and your guy’s erogenous zone for the safest tongue play. Use plastic wrap from your kitchen, or dental dams—which are rectangular pieces of latex you can buy at fine sex boutiques and online. Hold dental dams flat against the area you’d like to lick and caress and you’re ready to go.