Brenda Love - Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices

Acrotomophiles sometimes convince a consenting partner to wrap a hand or foot in bandages. Dr. Eustace Chesser tells of a man who used a form of pseudoacrotomy by having his wife limp across the bedroom with crutches before engaging in sex. He became impotent if she didn’t comply (Strange Loves, p. 40).

People may become attracted to amputees for many reasons. These include fetishes, vicarious sadism, low self-esteem, a legitimate excuse for poor performance, respect for an amputee’s adjustment to a handicap, need to rescue and care for an amputee, and fear that this loss could happen to them.

People in any of these categories have apparently developed an amputee attraction through a previous childhood experience. They may have escaped possible injury themselves or saw someone else injured. They were introduced to the concept of amputation at an early age. The fear or compassion which they felt at that time could have made such a strong impression that they may experience an erotic reaction when they next see an amputee. Those persons can be male or female, straight or gay. That initial erotic arousal then becomes the key to their adult sexuality.

Others may react by taking solace in the knowledge that someone else has worse problems than themselves. For some men the preference of an unusual sex object or practice is due to sexual repression and guilt imposed by parents. They select safe objects onto which to direct their lust. They may select a prostitute because she cannot be violated, or a handicapped person because the request for sex is compensated for by nurturing of the individual.

Conversely, a person with a low self-esteem may feel that someone with a handicap would provide a secure relationship as no one else would compete for them. They may also feel that the amputee could not afford to be too critical or demanding. This false sense of security and arrogance may lead a few into abusive behavior in their relationships with amputees. Men who have been constantly criticized by parents sometimes feel that if they had been amputees they would have been nurtured more and criticized less, therefore the amputee possesses a quality that this person feels he or she needs. They gain that quality by vicarious association. Their sexual inhibitions are lowered.

Clubs exist that provide introductions or referrals for amputees, and literature exists that provides written materials and photos. Fascination magazine features only photos and stories about female amputees. There is a book, Amputees & Devotees by Grant C. Riddle, which provides a detailed study of this phenomenon.

(See also APOTEMNOPHILIA, AUTOMASOCHISM, BINDING/FEET, COUVADE SYNDROME, DYSMORPHOPHILIA, HARMATOPHILIA, MASOCHISM, PSYCHROCISM, SADISM and VICARIOUS AROUSAL)

ACUPRESSUREAcupressure is the art of stimulating the self-healing or pleasure centers of the body by direct pressure on specific areas. It is widely used in India for holistic care. Not only are the person’s muscles manipulated, but so is their energy flow. Yoga masters are said to have the ability to use acupressure to give or take away knowledge, spiritual enlightenment, and energy. Sex is only a small part of this complex form of healing and spirituality.

The two areas most responsive to acupressure are the hands and feet. Twenty minutes of acupressure applied to them can result in increased sexual energy. Every square inch of the feet and hands is given individual attention by using firm pressure and a rotating motion. This should not create pain when done correctly.

Sensual acupressure points also include the ears and big toes, which are particularly sensitive to being sucked or fellated.

Other pressure points are on a person’s torso. These areas are on the nipples, inner collar bone, center of chest between nipples (of small breasts) just under the navel, at the top line of pubic hair, at the base of the spine, and around the anus. The exact spots will vary slightly from person to person, and some spots may not provide stimulus at all.

Acupressure is also used to delay ejaculation in men. These pressure points are listed by David and Ellen Ramsdale as follows in their book titled Sexual Energy Ecstasy, A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West.

PROSTATE POINT—midway between scrotum and anus, pushed frequently and firmly before ejaculation is imminent. Some men are able to tighten the anal/Pubococcygeal muscle enough to pump the prostate.

SOLAR PLEXUS—pit of stomach right below breastbone, pressed with fingertips of both hands.

SACRUM—inverted triangle of bone at base of spine, fingertip or thumb pressure used.

PUBIC BONE JUST ABOVE PENIS—pressed with third finger.

TESTES—putted to keep them from rising up toward body.

In keeping with acupressure therapy, Ramsdale and Dorman also include a list of genital pressure points and their corresponding list of organs that receive rejuvenation (i.e. lungs, heart, spleen, liver, and kidneys). The inside wall of the vagina has similar pressure points with the heart being the organ stimulated by the deepest penetration. The lungs are at the second deepest point. This acupressure theory suggests that there is a definite health advantage related to regular intercourse or masturbation.

(See also AXILLISM, BINDING, BITING, CLAMPS, CORSETS, CUPPING, GENUPHALLATION, LIGHTING. MASSAGE, PINCHING, SCRATCHING, SENSORY ENHANCEMENT and TICKLING)

ADOLESCENTILISM-PARAPHILIC(Ephebophilia—attraction to adolescents) Paraphilic adolescentilism refers to people who find sexual pleasure in dressing like a teenager or acting out this role.

(See ANACLITISM, GERONTOPHILIA, INFANTILISM, NYMPHOPHILIA, PEDIOPHILIA and TRANSVESTITES)

ADULTERY(Apistia, Affair, Open marriage—consensual, Nonmonogamy—lifestyle that does not restrict number of partners) Adultery is the sexual union between people when at least one of them is married to someone else. It is rarely used to describe a man who frequents prostitutes or for a wandering partner in a homosexual marriage. Most often the reason for engaging in adultery is an unbridled desire for ecstasy or passion; second is the opportunity to fulfill basic needs that are not met elsewhere; and third is the inability to say “no.”

Adultery, or nonmonogamous sex, was probably common among clans of primeval man and resembled the social system in some American Indian tribes. Adultery for women may have offered a few of the same advantages we find in some animals. Bachelor bands, such as the langur monkeys, are one example. These clans are ruled by a dominant male and are often raided by the younger outcast males. During raids these males rape straggling females and kill their young. The female is sometimes able to avert this fate by slipping away from the clan and having sex with several of the male outcasts. Her reward is that neither she nor her young are attacked during the raids. They are in fact protected by her adulterous partners, all of which consider themselves the father of her young. Females in other primate clans use adulterous liaisons to guarantee babysitters for their young. The mother signals one of her lovers to watch her young while she enjoys a few hours of leisure and again each male assumes this to be his responsibility as ‘the father’. Thomas Gregor, in his book Anxious Pleasures, The Sexual Lives of an Amazonian People, seems to attribute the continued survival of small Amazonian tribes to the cohesion created by the numbers of members who engage in adultery. Lovers, especially men, tend to give presents of food. This type of support, or exchange, balances their economic system. The love bonds and the presence of children by various women deter a young man or widower from leaving to marry someone from another tribe.