Douglas Kennedy - A Special Relationship

But I decided to sidestep all such negative thoughts by using the next few days to get the house into some sort of reasonable shape before our son filled every imaginable space. Fortunately, the foreman and his team were outside our front door at eight the next morning, ready to start work (Tony must have really played on their guilt - or simply stopped paying them). And Collins - the Northern Irish boss of the crew - was solicitousness itself, asking me with great concern about my 'wee one', telling me he was 'sorry for my troubles', but that, 'God willing, the wee fella will be just grand'. He also assured me that he and his boys would be able to finish all the large-scale work within a week.

'Now don't you worry about a thing, except your wee fella. We'll get the job done for you'.

I was genuinely touched by such kindness - especially in the light of the fact that he had been such a completely irresponsible pain prior to this, never true to his word, always messing us about, always acting as if he was doing us a favour. Suddenly, his inherent decency had emerged. Though I could have cynically written it off as him caving into emotional blackmail, I couldn't help but think that he was probably like every builder - playing the middle from both ends, taking on far more jobs than he could handle, and never letting the right hand know what the left hand was doing. But there's something about a child in danger which brings out the grace in almost all of us... unless, like Tony, you build up a wall against all panic, all doubt, all sense of life's random inequities.

Once again, I sensed that this emotional cordon sanitaire was Tony's way of coping with his own undercurrent of worry. As elliptical as he could be, I still knew him well enough by now to see through his veneer of diffidence. And though I was truly pleased that he was getting on with the novel, I also realized that it was a defence mechanism - a distancing device, in which he could push me and the potential problem that was Jack to one side.

'No doubt, it will only be a matter of time before he starts working out ways to get transferred back to Cairo - alone', Sandy said when she called me that morning.

'He's just quietly freaking', I said.

'Yeah - responsibility is such a bitch'.

'Look, everyone has their own way of dealing with a crisis'.

'Which, in Tony's case, means play ostrich'.

Of course, this hadn't been my first phone conversation with my sister since I'd been rushed to hospital. Ever since I had come home, we'd spoken two to three times a day. Naturally, Sandy was horrified by my news.

'If that deadbeat ex-husband of mine hadn't just taken off for a month-long hike with his outdoorsy paramour, I'd be over in London like a speeding bullet. But there's no one else to look after the kids, and the bastard's hiking without a cell phone, so he's completely out of contact'.

True to form, however, she did not react with horror to the big question mark hovering over Jack. Instead, she worked the phones, calling every obstetrician and paediatrician she knew in the Boston area, demanding information and second opinions, and all those other 'something must be done!' attempts to ameliorate a crisis that we love to practise in the States.

'I really think it's going to turn out all right', I told Sandy in an attempt to get her off the subject of my contrary husband. 'More importantly, they're moving Jack today out of Paediatric ICU'.

'Well, that's something. Because according to my friend Maureen's husband' -

And it would turn out that Maureen's husband was a certain Dr Flett, who happened to be the head of Paediatric Neurology at Mass General - and he had said that...

' - if the baby is responding to normal stimuli after seven days the signs are pretty good'.

'That's exactly what the doctors here told me', I said.

'Yes', Sandy said, 'but they're not the head of Paediatric Neurology at one of the leading hospitals in America'.

'The doctors here really have been terrific', I said.

'Well, if I had a couple of million in the bank, I'd fly you and Jack over here by MedEvac today'.

'Nice thought - but this isn't exactly Uganda'.

'I'm yet to be convinced of that. Are you better today?'

'I'm fine', I said carefully. Though I had mentioned my initial postnatal dive to Sandy, I didn't go into great detail... especially as I didn't want to unsettle her further, and also because I was pretty certain that my brief emotional downturn had been nothing more than that. But Sandy, per usual, wasn't buying my calmness.

'I've got this other friend - Alison Kepler - she's the chief nurse in the postnatal division of Brigham and Women's Hospital...'

'Jesus, Sandy' I said, interrupting her. 'Half of Boston must know about Jack's birth...'

'Big deal. The thing is, I'm getting you the best proxy medical advice imaginable. And Alison told me that postnatal depression can come in a couple of waves'.

'But I'm not having a postnatal depression', I said, sounding exasperated.

'How can you be certain? Don't you know that most depressed people don't know they're depressed?'

'Because I find myself getting so damn pissed-off with Tony, that's how. And don't you know that most depressed people are unable to get really pissed off at their husband... or their sister?'

'How can you be pissed off at me?'

How can you so lack a sense of humour? I felt like screaming at her. But that was how my wonderful, humourless sister saw the world: in an intensely logical, what you say is what you mean sort of way. Which is why she would never - repeat, never - survive in London.

But in the first few days out of hospital, I was certain that I was beyond the mere surviving stage of postnatal shock. Perhaps this had something to do with Jack's liberation from Paediatric ICU. On Wednesday, I arrived for my morning visit at ten-thirty - only to be met by the usual morning nurse, who said, 'Good news. Jack's jaundice has totally cleared up - and we've moved him to the normal baby ward'.

'You sure he's free of everything?' I asked.

'Believe me', she said, 'we wouldn't release him from here unless we were certain all is well'.

'Sorry, sorry' I said. 'I've just turned into a perpetual worrier'.

'Welcome to parenthood'.

The baby ward was two floors down. The nurse phoned ahead to inform them that I was the actual mother of Jack Hobbs ('We can't be too careful these days'). When I arrived there, the ward sister on duty was waiting.

'You're Jack's mum?' she asked.

I nodded.

'Your timing's perfect', she said. 'He needs to be fed'.

It was extraordinary to see him free from all the medical apparatus that had mummified him for the past ten days. Before he looked so desperately vulnerable. Now his face had shaken off that drugged look of shock that had possessed him during the first few days of his life. And though Sandy (through her platoon of experts) had reassured me that he'd have no received memories of these early medical traumas, I couldn't help but feel more guilt. Guilt that I had done something wrong during my pregnancy - even though I couldn't exactly pinpoint what that was.

And suddenly, that reproving voice inside my head started repeating, over-and-over again, 'You brought this on yourself. You did it to him. Because you really didn't want him...'

Shut up!

I found myself shuddering and gripping the sides of Jack's crib. The nurse on duty studied me with concern. She was in her mid-twenties: large, dumpy - but someone who immediately exuded decency.

'Are you all right?' she asked.

'Just a little tired, that's all', I said, noticing her name tag: McGuire.

'Wait until you get him home', she said with an easy laugh. But instead of getting annoyed at this innocently flippant comment, I managed a smile - because I didn't want anyone to know the manic distress that was encircling me at the moment.