Rafael Yglesias - Dr. Neruda's Cure for Evil

My mother’s horrible screams stopped. I told myself to keep quiet as well. My father was still beside me. I thought he was dead. I didn’t want to think about my mother. I just wanted to pretend to be dead so they would leave me alone.

As it turned out, my mother was badly beaten, but alive. My father had a gash on his forehead, and seemed incoherent but was otherwise unhurt. My cheekbone was broken and my cast had to be refitted.

I thought that I was playing possum, lying on the ground, silent and still. I wasn’t. The police found me standing beside my mother’s naked body, clutching her right hand. My eyes were shut and I was screaming.

NO ONE WAS ARRESTED. BOTH MY PARENTS WERE ABLE TO IDENTIFY THE attackers as Cuban. My father was convinced that, because of their accents, he could specify on which part of the island they had been reared. But they weren’t caught by the Tampa police. I don’t know how thoroughly they searched. I know they checked the hospitals for someone who had been shot. From a trail of blood at the scene, evidently one of them had been wounded thanks to my collision with his confederate’s gun.

My mother later insisted that I had saved our lives. I assume she said so to my father as well, but I don’t know. He returned to Cuba the day after the attack, presumably to escape another attempt on his life. If the purpose of the assault was to stop Francisco from continuing his radio and television appearances, it succeeded.

My mother was hospitalized for two days because of the beating and rape. (Of course, at the time I didn’t know she had been raped; and I’m not sure who, besides my father and the police, knew that she had been.)

In the early morning, my father came to my bed and woke me to say goodbye.

“I must go, Rafael. You understand? That way you and your mother will be safe.”

I remember his words exactly. They are oddly phrased for English. In fact they translate naturally into Spanish. But I know he said them in English. He kissed me. He hugged me. My lips did not answer. My arms stayed at my side. He embraced a lifeless body.

I had retreated into a schizoid state. Forgive me for that term, but it is a good specific description. I mean I sat mute in front of the television, with no outward evidence of a mood, not seeing the shows, absorbed by fantasies that denied the existence of the attack, or replayed it in literal horror, or rewrote it to an ending in which my father killed the three men. At night I didn’t sleep. Grandma kept me company in the television room, gently rocking in a chair beside the sofa bed where I was supposed to sleep. She would nod off and startle awake. I honestly can’t recall having slept at all. The hot nights, the suffocating feeling that I lived in a world with no ventilation, became a new terror. I lay still; but my heart beat furiously. I saw those men and the images of what they did to my parents and I struggled to breathe. But there were no tears or sobs: nothing to cool me off or give me air.

My mother returned on the third night. I clung to her. Literally. I held her hand without permitting a break. A couple of times she tried to let go, but I protested immediately and she resumed the contact. My relentless grip through dinner didn’t inconvenience her too much. She wasn’t eating any solid food. Since her jaw was swollen and bruised she was limited to my grandmother’s natilla. I ate well that night. Grandma had to cut up the food since I wouldn’t let go of Ruth, leaving me with just one hand to feed myself.

I got my first full night of sleep sharing a bed with my mother in the guest room. I woke up only once.

Ruth was out of the bed. She stood in the doorway, on her toes, attentive and still.

“Mom …” I called sleepily.

She rushed back on tiptoe. She sat against the headboard and pulled her legs under her. Her attention stayed focused on the open door.

I put my head in her lap. Because of the hot night she wore something thin and satiny. The warmth of her belly, her sweet smell, proximity to the origin of my life, were all a thrilling comfort. Is that sexual? Is that reassurance? Is that regression? Am I being unintentionally trained to confuse sex with comfort? Or are they the same? Does the interpretation matter? Is it more or less important than the fact of the action? Would I have been better served by the touch of my father’s strength than my mother’s consolation? Is that sexist? When I am done answering these questions will I be improved?

How silly introspection can seem or be made to seem, and how silly it is in fact, until self-examination becomes a matter of life and death. Whatever you make of this tableau — a frightened boy atop the heat of his mother’s belly — it restored me to the world.

“He feels better when he’s with his Mama,” was how Jacinta put it as she watched me eat a stack of her pancakes the following morning.

I started talking again. My cheek ached when I did and that’s how I knew I had been silent. That night, when my mother and I were in a train heading for New York, if you had stopped me as I squirmed by you in the narrow passageway (Do you see me: the little boy with a swollen and discolored cheek, a deep tan and a cast on his left arm?) to ask how I had gotten hurt, I might have cheerfully told you it was playing baseball. I had begun a repression of the direct memory of the attack that was complete by week’s end. I do not mean traumatic amnesia. I knew the assault had happened. But details faded and only a knowledgeable interrogator would have been able to summon the unwholesome creature from the dismal basement where it skulked.

[It is an interesting question to me (obviously) whether immediate psychological intervention in a case such as mine could prevent the distortions and deformations that seem inevitable after an overwhelming and terrifying experience. Some of the great theorists of my profession are convinced of human resilience, especially a child’s. Not to become bogged down in arguments between “schools” of psychology, but I refer to those who deemphasize the absolute significance Freud and his many revisionists place on infancy and early childhood as the real crux of our drama, with adulthood more or less the predictable final scene, or perhaps something duller, merely the cup of coffee one has after the show to rehash its highlights. In fact, to be fair to poor overscrutinized Freud, it is an overstatement to attribute such pessimism about mature life to him. His championing of the talking cure itself shows he thought more of adulthood than that. But where would he, or does any psychologist, stand on this question: should there be trauma psychologists rushing to scenes of tragedy, like paramedics of the mind, giving mouth-to-mouth to prevent further damage? Of course, I am ignoring those neurologists who believe traumatic events trigger biochemical changes in the brain. They do want to rush in with stupefying drugs whose exact effects they admit we do not understand. I am grateful they have no mandate to experiment on us, beyond their already sweeping powers. But, if they are right, why not? Shouldn’t an immediate chemical prophylactic be administered? And as for the behaviorists, if they are correct, shouldn’t they too be on the scene, able to prevent engineers of self-defeat from digging deep tracks? There are of course the beginnings of such a response with support groups and the like. My point is that psychology is the only branch of medicine that has no systematized emergency procedures or established preventative care. We wait until the problem is full-blown. Perhaps none of the various “schools” can honestly claim “cures” because we have all waited too long to begin our work.]