Rabih Alameddine - I, The Divine

“Hello, Dominic,” I said, using the correct pronunciation of his name. “My name is Sarah. I was sent here as your emotional support volunteer.” I wanted to make certain he knew I was not a practical support volunteer.

He mumbled something. It took my brain a minute to register that the reason it was incomprehensible was because he was speaking French. I understood three languages, but it took me a minute to recognize anything outside the dominant language I was involved with at the time.

“Salut, Alphonse,” he said.

Oh, boy, I thought, he had the AIDS craziness. I had not prepared for that. Trust your instincts, the supervisor had told me, so I did. “ Pardon, Dominic ,” I said gently, “ mais je ne suis pas Alphonse. Je m’appelle Sarah .”

“ Au revoir, Alphonse ,” he said and died, just like that. It was only the fact that my father was a physician that stopped me from screaming at the top of my lungs right then and there. I ran out of the room looking for a nurse and found one. Dominic was declared dead, and the nurse was nice enough to send me home with a tranquilizer.

My second client was Steve, with whom at least I was able to speak on the phone. He died between the phone call and the first visit to his home. His lover forgot to call and tell me, so I showed up at the scheduled time to meet Steve, who was already toast. Unfortunately, his memorial was that very afternoon; everyone was sympathetic, but it was embarrassing. I was not dressed for a memorial. I knew no one except Steve, and he was in an urn. I had no experience with American funerals or cremations. What could I say? Nice urn, is it Chinese? I had spent the day dreading our encounter, figuring out all different methods of trying to have Steve let out his feelings. Instead, I ended up dressed in a conservative, canary yellow Armani at a memorial.

To alleviate the stress of being an emotional support volunteer, we had weekly support group meetings where the volunteers shared their intimate moments with the clients.

“We spent the afternoon talking about his mother. ”

“We lay in bed crying all day. ”

“He is having so much trouble with his new medication. ”

“I told him if you’re ready to go, I’ll support that decision. ”

“He died. Just like that. He died right after our first meeting.”

While the others talked about many different things, all I ever got to talk about was the swift and premature demise of my clients. After Dominic and Steve, I was assigned John A(dams), John B(elcher), Paul, Randy, John C(alipari), Juan, John D(eGroos), and Lance, in that order. Amazingly, the Johns died alphabetically. Ten men, clients, who died when they were assigned to me. Granted, the disease was unforgiving, but the rapid, headlong descent into death caused me endless anguish. All died within at most two weeks of becoming my clients. I moved to New York in the middle of that necrology (John C. and Juan), came back, but the cycle was unbroken. I was devastated. By the time I was assigned Jay, my eleventh client, I was barely sane.

I was so desperate to have a working relationship with a client, I was terror-stricken the first week, constantly expecting the dreaded phone call. Jay broke the death cycle, for a while at least. In the beginning, I treasured him for that, I loved him. He gave me something to talk about with my support group.

His name was Jay De Ramon, born and raised in San Francisco, in his forties, Catalan, his parents from Barcelona. He loved flamenco, his parents having been famous dancers. He could play the castanets, his fingers seemed disconnected from their joints. He was a biologist. Before going on disability, he worked for the government testing milk. His passion was his deceased mother, who had left everything to him and nothing to his brother. He was also the homeliest man I had ever seen by a wide margin.

Cows. Everywhere I looked I saw cows. Paintings of cows, drawings of cows, cow plates, cow vases, cow mugs, cow silverware, cow-patterned upholstery, sunglasses with cows, and even a cow snow globe. When it came to bovine paraphernalia, Jay was a major collector, a dairy-cattle maven. Everything in the apartment was black and white, which were the only colors he wore as well. He regularly joked about wanting to be buried in a cow-patterned coffin. He was easy to Christmas-shop for.

Our relationship was straightforward. He was lonely and wanted a companion, someone to spend time with. I arrived one day at Heifer House, hearing strident shouts from behind the door as I rang the bell. Jay looked agitated. “Come in,” he said and then in a louder voice, “my brother was just leaving.”

His brother stormed into the foyer, ignoring me. “This is not the end of it,” he screamed. “Things can’t go on this way.”

“Don’t worry,” Jay said. “You’ll have the house when I die.”

“Well, you’re not dying soon enough,” his brother screamed as he slammed the door. The color drained from Joe’s face. He stared blankly at the door. I moved closer, but he regained his fury before I could show my concern.

“He’s going to be the death of me. Not AIDS. He’s going to kill me. It’s the Catalan blood. Angry and unforgiving.”

Jay and I disagreed on practically everything when it came to politics. The tension grew between us when he became involved in anti-immigrant policies. This was long before Governor Wilson adopted his anti-Mexican stance to further his career. In his own way, Jay was a visionary. He wrote letters to newspapers that would be used by the proponents of California proposition 187 after he died. He wrote about the illegal immigrant population draining the resources of the state. He was the first to actually use the argument that the increase in population due to illegal immigration was destroying our environment, which was later appropriated by the Sierra Club.

As time went on, I began to argue vociferously with him. Instead of maintaining a nonjudgmental tone, I became polemical. I pointed out that were it not for immigration, he would not be in this country. Legal immigrants were not the problem, he would say, though he felt legal immigration should be reduced. It was illegal immigrants. It was those damn Mexicans who crossed the border, the parasites who sucked California dry and never bothered to learn the language. He wanted those damn Mexicans, those intruders, those uninvited guests, out.

He had been vilified all his life, had whined incessantly about being discriminated against. Yet he turned against a group even less fortunate. He was unyielding in his criticisms.

It was at his funeral that I finally understood. He had been my client for over two years and I thought I knew him. I did not. He lay in his coffin, surrounded by friends, but not family. A priest began to read to the mourners asking them to pray for Jésus’s soul. It confused me at first until I realized he meant we should pray for Jay’s soul. I looked down at the memorial announcement and saw that Jay’s real name was Jésus. I questioned the woman next to me, a coworker from his days at the FDA.

“Oh yes, he always went by Jay. He didn’t like the ribbing he got when people found out his name was Jésus.”

“I can understand that,” I said. “In the Middle East, the Arabic name for Jesus is not uncommon either.”

“Well, with Jay, his father was José, his mother was Maria. So of course, they named the eldest Jésus. A fairly common Mexican name.”

“But they were Catalan.”

“By way of Mexico. His mother was born in Mexico City, but her parents had emigrated there from Spain. That’s why she learned flamenco. I believe his father is Sonoran, but I can’t be sure anymore.”