Hugo Richard Vogel - HOW TO BUILD A LOVING RELATIONSHIP.

There are three reasons we live for. We live for the body, the mind and the soul. None of these three is more important or better than the others. All are equally valuable. None of the three can express themselves completely if one is completely neglected. It is not right to live only for the soul and therefore to neglect the mind or the body. It is also not right to live only for the mind and to neglect body and soul. Of course, there is no point in just living for the body and turning off the mind. Real life means the balanced expression of all three in balance.

Whatever someone may say. Nobody can be really happy if their body is not healthy. And the same goes for his mind and his soul.

If one of the three is denied expression, then unsatisfied desires arise. If one of the three is neglected, then certain tasks simply cannot be completed.

A person cannot live happily without good food, comfortable clothes, a nice home and freedom from constant drudgery. Peace and relaxation are also

necessary for his physical life. If two people share work, living space and income it is much easier to achieve this than in a single life in which one has to do everything on one's own and pay for the entire added value alone.

A person also cannot live happily without time for further training for travel and observation. He also needs opportunities for entertainment at a level that suits him. This is also easier to achieve in pairs than alone

To be mentally happy, it is also necessary to be able to surround oneself with beautiful things that one values. Finding beautiful things is also easier to achieve together with a life partner. Four eyes see more than two.

In order to live a complete soul, a person must be able to love. He who lives permanently alone denies love to his fellow human beings.

The highest happiness of man lies in giving good things to those whom he loves. Love finds its most natural expression in giving. He who gives spontaneously loves. The person who feels he has nothing to give stops at his development status. He's not evolving. But standstill is backlog in the stream of time. (2)

In giving material things a person finds full life for his body. In giving he develops his mind. In giving he unfolds his soul. It is therefore of the highest value for a person to have a soul mate. He can express his love to him by giving.

It is absolutely right that you should wish to have the best soul mate in the world. It is just as true that you should pay the greatest attention to science, to finding a partner. You have a duty to try as hard as you can. You can't do more service to others than to make the best of yourself. To do this, it is necessary that you find your soul mate.

When I write in this book about the right to partnership, I am not only referring to partnerships between men and women but also specifically to civil partnerships between two same-sex people who love each other.

There is a science of partner finding, and it is an exact science like physics or mathematics. There are certain laws of nature that regulate how to find a suitable life partner. The laws of nature apply to every human being regardless of his or her predisposition. No matter if the person is heterosexual, homosexual or lesbian. As soon as these laws are recognized and applied by a person, he will find with mathematical certainty the life partner that is exactly right for him.

Living together with a partner is the result of acting in a certain way. Those who do things in a certain way find a life partner. Others who do not do things in this particular way remain alone however hard they try. You cannot find a suitable partner. It doesn't matter how hard they try. It just doesn't work. It does not matter which abilities or which appearance or which social status they have.

That the above statement is correct can be seen from the following facts.

Finding the right partner is not a matter of the environment. If this were the case, all people in a particular residential area would have found the ideal partner. All the inhabitants of a place would live in a happy relationship. On the other hand, all inhabitants of another place would live without partners. Or the inhabitants of one city would all be happily married, while the inhabitants of another city would all be divorced.

But everywhere we see people who live in partnerships and those who live separately in the same environment and often also within the same social class.

But if two people live in the same place and belong to the same social class and one finds the ideal partner and the other remains alone, it becomes clear that it does not depend on the place and social status.

Rather, finding a soul mate is the result of doing things in a certain way.

It is not the circumstances that determine our lives but our decisions, which we make consciously or unconsciously. (3)

The ability to do things in a certain way is the only thing that matters. It doesn't matter what abilities or talents a person has. People with a lot of talent can fail to find a partner while others who have little talent find a soul mate.

If we take a closer look at the people who have found a life partner, it turns out that they have average dexterity. They have no greater talents or abilities than other people. It is clear that they have not found a partner because they have special talents or abilities. They have no talents that other people don't have. They find a partner because they do things intentionally or accidentally in a certain way.

Living with a loved one is not the result of someone staying at home and caring only and exclusively for that person. Many people who cling to their partner lose it, while others who have numerous acquaintances and friendships with whom they go out keep their partner.

Also, nobody keeps the ideal partner because he creates things that others can't. Because two people working in the same field often do almost the same things. Nevertheless, one celebrates a golden wedding and the other gets divorced.

So I come to the statement that finding a life partner is the result of doing things in the definite way.

But if finding a life partner is the result of doing things in a certain way, and if the same causes always bring the same results, then every man and every woman can find the ideal life partner in this way. The topic of partner finding becomes tangible within the field of exact science.

The question is, of course, whether this particular way may be so difficult that few can follow it. That can't be true. As we've seen. Talented people find a partner and fools find a partner. Intellectually great people find a partner and stupid people find a partner. Physically strong people find a partner and weak people get a life partner.

A certain degree of ability to think must naturally exist. But as far as his natural abilities are concerned, anyone who has enough sense to read and understand this book can undoubtedly find a partner.

We realize once again that it is not a matter of the environment. The location counts for something. If you want to meet someone, you have to go where people are.

Necessarily someone who wants to find a life partner has to deal with people and be there where there are people he wants to get in contact with. And if these people are willing to deal with us the way we want them to. But that's all there is to it's surroundings.

If anyone else in the place where you live can find a life partner, so can you.

I would like to repeat once again, because this point is important. It is not a question of what income someone has or what profession they pursue that influences whether or not they find a partner. People with any income and any profession can find a partner. They can be direct door neighbours. One finds the love of his life and the other remains alone for a lifetime.