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The example of Fairview, Alberta shed light on the detail that before various channels of entertainment exist in today's time, people interacted with one another a lot. During winters, people got sad and frustrated and people and animals died a lot, deaths stemming from drinking in the former. The author shared the example of his friend Chris and his cousin Ed, who were gifted but did not realize their potential owing to the use of Marijuana, etc. The town did not offer the youth prospects and most people just had a wish to bid adieu to the town. Nothing including attachment and the chance to interact so much with others could boost the morale of those living there.

Chris's life went downhill from there and despite being extremely intelligent; he brought an end to his life. This might have resulted from the fact that people around him transformed and he did not believe that things would improve. On the contrary, the writer of the book realized the importance of friends that matter and want to travel on an upward slope. Having this kind of friends made the writer give increased importance to studies and their translation into something more substantial. This gave birth to a circle of improvement for him.

If people do not want to improve their conditions themselves, others cannot do it for them. They make a statement to others that they do not want things to improve in the form of their friends. Those who are destined to fail encounter people that are failures themselves and do not want to help anyone to be better or better themselves with the assistance of anybody else. Therefore, friendship is the kind of thing where both parties wish to act in the best interests of the other. If any of the parties does not wish to be witness to other’s success, there is an issue. One needs to discover the kind of friends that would help them reach new heights instead of making them go down.

An individual might feel demotivated since another individual is better at something that the first person has been doing for a long time. But it may cause the first person to experience chaos. This is not the proper way. Furthermore, it is not necessary for a person to excel at all the things. An individual may have a lot to handle, more than they can take. A human being may excel at one thing and face unfavorable circumstances as far as something else is concerned. This can lead to envy for others as well for being better at something. People need to realize that they need to learn to accept if others are successful at something since they also have successes to celebrate at something else.

What individual needs to realize here is to let go of the past since the person cannot do anything to change it. There is also a need to view the future as something with an infinite sense of promise. In addition, a person also needs to be aware of their positive and negative aspects. They need to focus on improving the negative to accomplish something. They also need to take one thing at a time and celebrate small wins.

While observing something, we see what we wish to and ignore the rest. We have a huge scope and range where we can succeed but we limit ourselves by focusing on one thing. When we fail at that thing, it makes us frustrated. We need to consider that life goes beyond that. People face a requirement to find a balance between the positive and the negative. In other words, they must surpass their gloomy and negative approach to accomplish something in life. People need to have a bigger scope and range since a huge number of phenomena govern their lives. Since a person can select something from a huge number of things that results into failure, this can further cause frustration. The other option is nice and easy i.e. selecting something else that would make their life less chaotic and make things better. It will also lead to joy and provide them with a direction until they reach their real target. Joy holds more weight and substance than a mere win.

As a parent, you have full authority over how your children turn out to be. The early part of a child's life is extremely important in this context. If you do not control your child in the start, such a kind of child will not be able to derive order from chaos later and if you discipline your child initially, it will enable him or her to easily derive order from chaos.

Even though everyone wants a well-mannered child, it is not an easy task. Despite parents trying so hard to control children, children end up being undisciplined. This gives rise to a need for letting go of old rules to pave the way for a new approach.

The example of animals indicates that when left desolate, they can invoke conflict and form hierarchies. This should not be so in human beings. Homo sapiens need to direct their children with the assistance of their care and attention. This can help children battle instincts and the negative effects of their surroundings. A parent is accountable for shaping their child's manners and outlook. Parents in today's times believe that they need to give their children complete independence but this is not how it should be. This can lead to negative behavior patterns in a child. Shaping the right kind of child is much more challenging than the wrong one since bad behaviors are easier. It remains the duty of a parent to shape a child to be good since they are the only one that can do it. In today's times, a lot of parents are not aware of the harm they can cause their child by their inability to drive their child to be good. By punishing and rewarding children, parents can teach them what is right and wrong. This leads to a broader lessen for life in terms of what is right and wrong in the eyes of people. This can shape all interpersonal and personal aspects of life. In the course of existence, children need stern direction from someone at times. This gives rise to the need for forceful action on the part of the parents if the child is not acting in accord with the norms of society. This force aiming to discipline, if properly regulated, will not cause the child to be aggressively inclined.

Parents do not need a huge list of rules. A small number of rules will suffice. In addition, rather than being a single parent, parents need to be accompanied by another parent to complete the equation. Parents can leave a sad effect on their children if their circumstances are gloomy. They are further accountable for the social abilities of their children.

Parents need to tolerate their children since no one else would. They need to make their children socially balanced, which will also assist the child in being balanced overall.

Existence is full of suffering and this is seen in the form of the numerous shootings that have been witnessed at multiple places in the USA alone. While people claim a religious allegation to such incidents, the reason is never good enough to mock the Creator in such a manner. The suffering of others and self might be assumed often as consequential but that is not always the truth, so the suffering becomes unfair and so does the intent for such actions.

What happens to a person once they have undergone some form of suffering is totally up to them because it is their mind that will make up the decisive vote in the end. History is full of people who took a turn for the worst as they went after all those who took advantage of them in any manner; these people initiated a negative cycle of actions that lead to further evils. On the other hand, there were many (like Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn) who spread kindness in exchange with torture, to eliminate the very existence of torture.