Alexander Borodin - Non vowel resources of some good mood

Accidentally overheard in a bus conversation of two women. First woman: «His wife works, he does not work, sits in the apartment, writes a book.» The second woman: «And what is the book about?» First woman: «About life, but I say, did he even see this life?» From this, the conclusion is – can everyone be called psychologists who teach how to live – have they ever seen this life? Of course, in order to tell someone, you need to go somewhere, and not only in some places, but also in various situations, or chat with someone who has visited somewhere.

«… futurologists,» who don’t know real life, were clearly in a hurry.»

Excerpt from the article by Andrey Mukovozchik «Continuous Futorology» published in the newspaper «Sovetskaya Belorussia» (Belarus Today) No. 12 (25399) dated January 18, 2018.

Who is closer to real life – a psychologist, futurologist, or a person who does not have a diploma of the first and has nothing to do with the second, but who has been to various places and situations? Is a real psychologist and futorologist the one who is as close to life as possible, and not hidden from it? Why are there suicides? The psychologist must be a leader, otherwise how will he lead people if he, under certain circumstances, can be one of those who need to be led? The best psychologist is the one who is called a strong spirit person: do people «absorb» their qualities and line of behavior when communicating with him? Psychologists can be divided into theorists and practitioners: the theoretician is the one who deals with psychology in the office, the practitioner is the one who is in practice? Futurologist Alvin Toffler, who, according to his biography, went to work as an installer to learn about life from the inside out? Relations between people can be divided into sea waves: the first, second, third, fourth, etc.? One of the directions in the study of psychology is to try everything on yourself – who wants to try on «alien» shirts, having been in situations that ordinary people encounter? A strong one who does not have what are called weaknesses? A smart one who has weaknesses and can satisfy them? According to the phrase attributed to Guy Julius Caesar, is everything an experience teacher?

Psychologists, undoubtedly, without irony, smart people, transpersonal psychology, team building (team building), tests by Lusher, Eysenck, they have a lot of serious psychological discoveries and works, among which, as popular science films tell, for example, a woman is excited by tactile touches, and the man from what he saw (how this will help to survive, for example, a hungry and apartmentless guest worker at a construction site), it turns out that the psychology of some psychologists is for a certain social stratum, while those who work are guest workers om and sleeps in a transport car, sometimes feeding lice on himself, everything is fine, since a migrant worker a priori can’t have everything bad, he’s a guest worker, so he’s fine, maybe the migrant workers are all right in the psychological sense, maybe, they are all strong in spirit, because the profession itself requires the presence of fortitude.

Psychologists are literate, but, unfortunately or joyfully, not all of them know the life, the life of a migrant worker, a homeless person, an unemployed worker, perhaps to become a good practical psychologist, and not a theoretician, you first need to work on a construction site as a helper, in a factory as a machine operator – to find out what kind of «bread» is what people say, as many Nobel laureates in the field of medicine did: they tested everything on themselves, endangering their lives, infecting themselves with diseases and trying to cure themselves of them with their invention.

There are words that are attributed to Felix Dzerzhinsky: «Whoever didn’t sit in solitary confinement has nothing to talk about» (by the way, such famous people as pilot Valery Chkalov, film actor Georgy Zhzhenov, singer Alexander Novikov, hero were in prison or on guardhouse Kotovsky revolution, and they probably are real psychologists, only without diplomas). You can rephrase the words of Dzerzhinsky – «who did not work at the construction site, with that…» or «who did not experience deprivation, with that …", so no matter how loudly it is said, you can probably go from the Old Testament to the new, in this case, in the sense of psychology, or to supplement existing psychology with psychology that helps to survive such as the same homeless and hungry guest worker, differentiate psychology for different people, since everyone has different problems, they are not universal, because classical psychology is probably about it definitely doesn’t say anything.

The inscription on the logo of the unit of psychological operations: «Persuade change influence» (approximate translation: «Influence changes belief»).

How to find a remedy for what is called stress, without side effects – incorrectly released what is called emotions, and has already broken the law? Higher powers gave instincts and other programs of behavior, but did not give methods for their implementation? Aggressive people are no less free than in prisons, they just, unlike those who are in prison for crimes committed on an emotional basis, know how safe it is to throw aggression, for example, in what is called complaints and denunciations (by anonymous letters) – this makes it possible to restore the psychological balance to those who have been offended, without resorting to physical impact on the offender. The states and the people living in them, «banned» some actions psychologically (moral) and, just in case, legally (laws) for those who are not affected by morality and beliefs? In one of the feature films about the war, a soldier took a cartridge in his hand and said something like this: «This (cartridge) is for those who are not affected by» beliefs». Sometimes you have to use force to those who are not affected by beliefs? If you consider yourself serious, and if, for example, you listen to the radio and believe everything they say, are you not serious anymore? Each consciousness has its own torture – for some, torture is an ugly hairstyle, for others is torture being in prison? Make muck – get joy, or the antidote for stress has long been known, should the psychologist give the necessary information to restore psychological stability, as the doctor needs the right medicine? The behind-the-scenes psychology prevents mental problems (you got naughty, and you spoke out) and heals them, while the classical one is not quite capable of this and deals, as a rule, with the consequences of stress, and not with warning it (you got naughty, and you «Swallowed» without responding to rudeness)? Is behind-the-scenes psychology a kind of «wild West,» an area of psychology that is not yet officially used? Is classical psychology transformed into coaching and motivational oratory or is it just inventing new phrases by ambitious people to emphasize individuality, and is there really no difference between classical psychology and everything else, or is there? An example of the actions of the unspoken psychology is given in the film «Prisoner of If Castle»? Judging by the actions of the heroes of the film «Prisoner of If Castle», psycho-technologies for healing have long been known, why was it necessary to reinvent the wheel again in the form of psychology, and even which rides poorly? There is no stress at work, if there is stress, then this work is not for you? There is no stress, since stress is only someone’s personal perception of a situation as stress? It is necessary to make sure that no one defeats you, you need to get a job where you feel like a fish in water: choose a place where we will be the first, not the second? Is life cruel to those called tender? If you don’t like people (it happens), you need to isolate yourself from them or find a job where you work alone? Live yourself and do not disturb others? If they will listen to the speaker, then only then will he be a speaker, without listeners there is no speaker, without listeners there is no psychologist and there are no other experts on life? The suite is made by the king – if everyone considers the king to be a king, then only then is he a king? Are angry, vengeful people usually sentimental? Voodoo doll and black magic – «yesterday’s snow» and self-hypnosis, denunciation (anonymous letter) with real facts pointed out in it by someone, is this the Voodoo doll and black magic? There should be books with unofficial (unofficial) information (or etiquette) with the information that is given to children in families considered normal according to generally accepted canons and not given in other families, such books can be given to those whose problems the state could not solve through psychologists etc., for example, to people suffering from various addictions, since people with addictions will sooner or later stumble on a wall of social misunderstanding, such a book is something like the «Field Charter» of an army unit, which briefly states what is needed for lat in order to fulfill the mission and survive? If books with information about the real structure of the social system and about other things that help people correctly understand what is happening and survive, these books do not always want to be sold in bookstores, they can be sold in specialized places, for example, in pharmacies for those who were not helped by the classical psychological help, or can the same psychologists and psychiatrists write to their clients who are confused in life’s labyrinths so that they can find a way out of this labyrinth? Deprogramming from unsuccessful programming – is this when the new replaces the old? Is the information in this material the information that should at least be voiced? Offend the weak – well done against the sheep, and against the well done the sheep himself? When you are weak, everyone attacks you, when you are strong, you have no conflicts with anyone, and nobody touches you – is a lame duck always in greater danger than healthy? Are they afraid of making the bold their enemies, but they are not afraid of making the timid one their enemies? When someone was fired, is there no longer power over him who fired him, or is his influence limited at best, which gives certain opportunities for the dismissed person? After the fight, waving their fists? It is generally accepted that some people in creative professions have a psychopathic personality type – it is believed that some artists self-medicated, unconsciously used what is now called art therapy for treating or stopping their psychopathic conditions, whereas about denosotherapy (anonymous therapy) or intrigotherapy and recognition of these terms officially scientific and psychological, it’s not a secret that many people use this to restore psychological balance? Rezanuli and does not overgrow – how to make a psychological wound overgrow? You need not look for ways to fulfill your needs, but learn to manage yourself – again, cognitive dissonance? What is the lordly attitude towards people? How to deal with what is called «socially unapproved norms of behavior»? Having two rather than one job gives an independent position: is it noticeable that those who constantly have two or more jobs do not «break down» and work out to retirement? If you work in the civil service, and at the same time you or your relatives have a business, then you have a quiet life and career? Ikar’s syndrome is when an overly self-confident boss, who has never seriously broken off before in life, with inclinations called sadistic, runs into a subordinate who looks like himself, dismisses him, and then he writes complaints about him and «drags him» in court, until the fired boss is fired? For any boss, a dismissed subordinate can cause trouble, since he now has no power over him, and the former subordinate has nothing to fear, since he will no longer be fired and since he has no job? Is any team an aggressive environment or at least fair competition with each other? Confidence is transferred from one to another, like a baton in a baton – defended your own, and you are full of confidence, lost, and you have a bad mood? Can you concede in anything if this contributes to further victory? Does everyone talk about everything that happened at their previous place of work when they «drop out» of the cage (when they no longer work there)? If you are not mistaken, it was in the comedy «Dog in the Hay» filmed in the USSR that one of the heroes of the film (a hired artist) said something like this: «The boss is the person who, when he’s the boss, needs to carry the pot and knock him over the head of this pot when he is no longer the boss»?