It came to pass that she called to me: What should I wear to bed? And this must have been a rhetorical question, because what should one wear under these circumstances but either (a) nothing at all, or (b) something that is suggestive of and/or preliminary to nothing at all, meaning something barely substantial and yet expensive and black, or perhaps red, but instead I said: Let me see your pajamas. I want to see your pajamas. To which she said: No way, no fucking way, why would I let you see me in my pajamas, you won’t want me anymore. And I said, Don’t be ridiculous! I love everything about you! I’m crazy about you! I want to see you in your pajamas because I want to know about you in your pajamas, I want to be someone who knows that about you, and if that’s a vulnerable thing, then that’s a vulnerable thing, all the better. I want to love you even in your pajamas. There was some rustling around in the bathroom, which, as you know, is a very agreeable rustling to listen to. Which color? she said. I have pink and I have black. I said: Pink. It could have gone on this way for years. We could have turned up at dozens of places, dozens of hotels; she could have accompanied me during my training in motivational speaking, come to the conventions I went to, she could have come on some of my corporate retreats, we could have become parts of each other’s lives so that it was impossible to tease us apart if only she hadn’t agreed to wear the pink pajamas there in the Mercer Hotel. Because once I saw her in them, I loved her in the same way I love my sister, which is an impasse of the truly impassable sort. ★★★★ (Posted 1/13/2013)
La Quinta Inn, 4122 McFarland Boulevard East, Tuscaloosa, Alabama, January 5–9, 2002
Under circumstances of regret, during the long nights of regret, you should be back at home, but you are not back at home, because you have to go somewhere you don’t want to go, somewhere no one should have to go, namely, Tuscaloosa, Alabama. Well, sure, you can go there without incident if you are fervently interested in things gridiron, and you can go stand on the lawn and watch as the twenty-year-olds with the shaved heads pass down the main drag along the campus in their flatbed trucks, waving their bruised fists. Oh, look, there is the tight end; oh, look, there is the safety. Another winning season. If you are interested in things gridiron, your heart will rise up at this address. If not, this will not be your experience. I wish I had never been there. I will never again go to Tuscaloosa, I will not go to La Quinta on McFarland Boulevard, no one can make me unless I can be assured that each day in Tuscaloosa I will be served grits. And I do not mean cheese grits. Were it not for the tasty grits, I’d be happy to permit the southern part of the country its long-delayed secession.
And yet, on one occasion I found myself at La Quinta, which has good access to the interstate highway system, isn’t far from campus, and — if you are not selling auto parts or rug samples and do not believe in a personal Redeemer — makes you feel like you are at the edge of the known universe, hastening away from all that is good and civilized. When I wound up at La Quinta, having been hired as an independent contractor by the major-gifts department at the university, charged with putting on motivational workshops for the staff, I looked deep into my heart and found that there was nothing there, that I had become like an expanse of synthetic-fiber wall-to-wall carpeting. My paralysis was complete, and all I could do was watch television and pop pills from the vials given me by the language arts instructor, who had a lot of vials of, for example, Wellbutrin and Zoloft and Klonopin and Ambien.
The list of Ambien side effects includes headache, depression, sleepiness, and profound personality change, and nearly all the literature suggests that you should call your doctor if, while taking Ambien, you have a profound personality change, but the question, in this rearview mirror, is whether the profound personality change I experienced in La Quinta in Tuscaloosa was caused by the Ambien or by La Quinta itself. For example, the interior decorating of La Quinta could in fact cause profound personality change, as this decorating had a nauseating insistence on what I like to call Mexican pastels, perhaps owing to the chain’s origins in the state of Texas, and I have to say that earth tones, at least for me, certainly brought about profound personality change, as did the absence of a dining facility, and I’m not going to say that the breakfast nook was sufficient to scratch that itch. So if we were attempting to isolate possible causes of profound personality change, we could speak of the presence of Ambien in the bloodstream, or we could point to La Quinta itself, or we could remind the reader about aggrieved heartbreak. But what about Tuscaloosa itself, with its pro-life billboards and its relentless fraternities and sororities? Could this not result in profound personality change in which a person who was normally sunny, upbeat, kind, and entirely positive found himself feeling like throwing himself under one of those flatbed trucks?
It bears mentioning that part of the period at La Quinta in which I was supposed to be conducting empowerment workshops took place during, or just after, what appeared at the time to be an irremediable separation from the language arts instructor, before subsequent instances of recidivism, and there were occasions during this stay when, in the breakfast nook, I found myself burying my face in my hands, stifling sobs, while a fat guy with a crew cut got his pancakes and drenched them with syrup stored in individual packets, and his pal Don, the one with the galloping rosacea, piled high a plate with more breakfast meats than I have ever seen a man take, and they then proceeded to talk about another fellow in the office who just absolutely would not give up his habitual parking space to the woman in Accounts Receivable who had just been classified as an American with Disabilities because of her rheumatoid arthritis. This conversation crossed the fifteen-minute threshold. I listened because how could I do otherwise, and somehow in the course of the discussion, there was a joking mention of unwanted back hair — here was a type of levity that might have indicated that these two men were reasonably aware of the shortcomings of their lives and habits — and yet I buried my face further in my hands, thinking about the language arts instructor who, after having accompanied me to Tuscaloosa, had returned home early following multiple instances of chastisement of my person (for such is the way of romance, which, until K., had always seemed to me the success that was an interval between failures) and about the poor attendance at my empowerment workshops, all the while taking in the fact that though there was a breakfast nook and this was the Deep South, there were no plain grits at La Quinta, only cheese grits, and as I have already said, it is not possible to consider a serving of cheese grits as falling under the rubric of grits.
What about tradition? The tradition of coarsely ground cornmeal, which goes back as far as the natives of this country? I understand that there is a tendency in an evolving economy to want to tinker with tradition, to tinker with greatness, but the addition of cheese stretched this elemental food beyond its proper range, and it could be considered fit only for the expanding belt lines of an ever more obese local populace.
I was suffering with profound personality change, and if I had to go out onto the highway and stick out my thumb and secure a ride to a Waffle House in order to consume grits in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, I would go to a Waffle House, leaving behind the unwanted back hair and the expanding belt lines and the godforsaken cheese grits to make of myself a person of the road, a person of the highway, a person of indeterminate location. You could get some grits at a Waffle House, and it wouldn’t cost you an arm and leg, because it was presumed at Waffle House that you were on your last nickel, that you had squandered opportunities, that all was illusion. A man still has to eat, however, and coarsely ground cornmeal was best. It needed nothing other than what it was, and if an inn with a bunch of nauseating pastels and some faux-Mexican decor could not provide you with true and authentic grits, then you might go elsewhere, as you did, eventually. ★ (Posted 3/9/2013)
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