Douglas Kennedy - The Pursuit of Happiness

'I am definitely over him'.

'No, S. He's still around, nagging you. I can tell'.

Was I that transparent? Was it that obvious? Ever since I'd received that card from Jack, I had resolved to expunge him from my head; to file him away, and slam the cabinet door shut. Initially, I was so angry and hurt by his terse reply that it was easy for me to write him off as a delusional mistake. I mean, how dare he only write three lousy words in response to the three dozen or so letters and cards I sent him? He'd made me feel like a chump, a dupe. Over and over I heard myself at the gates of the Brooklyn Navy Yards, telling him he'd better not break my heart. Over and over I heard Jack say that he loved me. How could I have been so naive, so damn green?

Anger is always a sensible antidote to heartache - especially if you have very good reasons for feeling aggrieved. For months I held on to that sense of intense rancor. It helped me deal with his wholesale rejection of me. I had made a massive mistake. As Eric predicted, Jack Malone turned out to be a fly-by-night artist; a Don Giovanni in Army khaki. If only he'd had the decency (or the courage) to write me straight away, telling me that there was no future between us. If only he hadn't kept me dangling for so long. If only I hadn't been such a romantic sap.

After anger comes resentment. After resentment, bitterness. And when that acrid aftertaste finally diminishes, what you are usually left with is wistfulness. A rueful cocktail of acceptance and regret. The sadder but wiser school of needlepoint mottos.

But by the time of my Thanksgiving lunch with Eric, I wasn't merely wistful. Naturally, the day in question (my so-called anniversary with Jack, as Eric so tartly noted) made me reflect on all that had happened to me during the past chaotic year. But it also brought home something which I kept trying to deny (but which Eric, damn him as usual) quickly detected: I still missed the guy.

And I still couldn't work out why one single night with someone had made such a resounding, lasting impact.

Unless...

Unless he was it.

But I tried not to dwell on this thought. Because it meant dwelling on Jack. And I didn't want to dwell on Jack because, in turn, it meant wondering if there was a thing called destiny - a thought which rekindled the residual grief I still felt about losing Jack.

A few days after Thanksgiving, however, a little perspective returned - and, once again, I retired Mr Malone to that drawer of my mental filing cabinet marked 'Romantic Mistakes'.

During that same week, I also took Eric's advice and put my Remington typewriter into hibernation at the back of my closet. Initially I felt a considerable degree of guilt at giving up the idea of writing. But by mid-December, the constant stab of angst had receded. And, rationalizing like crazy, I was able to convince myself that my writing career hadn't crashed and burned. Rather, it had decided to take an extended sabbatical.

'Am I ever going to see that new short story?' Nathaniel Hunter asked me at our Christmas lunch.

'Not for a while, I'm afraid'.

He looked at me quizzically. 'And why is that, Sara?'

I met his gaze directly. 'Because I never wrote it, Mr Hunter'.

He grimaced. 'That's a damn shame'.

'It's just a story'.

'You have a lot of promise, Sara'.

'That's very kind of you, but if I can't get the story written, then promise means nothing, does it?'

'I feel bad. Responsible'.

'Why? You did warn me. But it's not the job that stopped me from writing it. It's me'.

'Don't you want to be a writer?'

'I think so. But... I can't really figure anything out anymore'.

'It's a common complaint, I'm afraid'.

'Tell me about it. Especially since I have learned one basic rule of life over the last year'.

'Enlighten me'.

'Every time you think you know what you want, you bump into someone who alters your perspective completely'.

'Some people would call that "keeping your options open"'.

'I would call it an ongoing recipe for unhappiness', I said.

'But maybe some people do bump into what they want'.

'Without question. The problem is: having found what you want, can you actually hold on to it? And the terrible thing is: the answer to that question all comes down to things like luck, timing, maybe even a pinch or two of serendipity. Stuff over which we have such little control'.

'Take it from a guy who's compromised himself into a corner - we have control over nothing. We think we do, but the truth is: most of the big decisions we make in life are never thought out properly. They're all done quickly, instinctively, and usually out of fear. The next thing you know, you've boxed yourself into a situation you don't want to be in. And you find yourself asking, "how the hell did I get here?" But we all know the answer: we wanted to be here... even though we might spend the rest of our lives denying it'.

'So what you're saying is: we trap ourselves'.

'Absolutely. You know that old line from Rousseau: man is born free, but everywhere in chains. Well, in America today, most of the chains are self-imposed... courtesy of marriage'.

'I'm never getting married'.

'I've heard that one before. But, believe me, you will. And probably without even thinking too much about it'.

I laughed and said, 'How on earth can you know that?'

'Because it's the way it always happens'.

At the time, I dismissed Nathaniel Hunter's comments as those of a metropolitan cynic - and one who was ruing the approach of middle-age and the loss of his literary prospects. But I also knew of his devotion to his family - and how that probably tempered any professional disappointments he might be bearing. He might be 'in chains', but he secretly liked the chains.

Then, two weeks after Christmas, I came to work one morning to discover a notice posted on the door of the literary department, asking all staff members to attend an urgent meeting in the managing editor's office at ten that morning. Everyone from the department was already gathered by Mr Hunter's desk, speaking in low conspiratorial tones. But Mr Hunter wasn't there.

'What's happened?' I asked as I joined my colleagues.

'You mean you haven't heard?' asked Emily Flouton, one of the other assistant fiction editors.

'Heard what?'

'That our happily married boss just ran off with Jane Yates'.

I blanched with shock. Jane Yates was a quiet, angular-faced woman in her late twenties who worked in Saturday/Sunday's art department. With her sharp features, her long braided hair, and her rimless round glasses, she always looked like the sort of New England librarian who was destined to end up a spinster.

'Mr Hunter ran off with her?' I heard myself saying.

'It's something, isn't it?' Emily said. 'Not only that - he's also quit his job. Rumor has it that he and Jane are planning to move to New Hampshire or Vermont, so he can write full time'.

'But I thought he was happily married'.

Emily rolled her eyes and said, 'Honey, what man is ever happily married? Even if you give the guy complete freedom, he'll still end up feeling trapped'.

I never saw Nat Hunter again. Because he never showed his face again in the offices of Saturday/Sunday. With good reason. In 1947, running out on your marriage was considered a major misdemeanor... and one which was punishable by professional demotion, if not ostracization. Had he just continued cheating on his wife, there would have been no problem - as adultery was tolerated (so long as you were never caught). But abandoning your family back then was regarded as immoral and downright unAmerican. In the case of Nat Hunter, it was also mind-boggling. Especially given that the object of his desire was a woman who reminded me of Mrs Danvers in Rebecca.