Annie Grace - This Naked Mind

– Marcus J., London, United Kingdom

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About the Author ABOUT THE AUTHOR About the Author Title Page Copyright Dedication Praise Preface Introduction 1. This Naked Mind: How and Why It Works 2. The Drinker or the Drink? Part 1: The Drinker 3. The Drinker or the Drink? Part 2: The Drink 4. Liminal Point: Is Drinking a Habit? 5. You: Simply Naked 6. Liminal Point: Are We Really Drinking For The Taste 7. You: Polluted 8. Liminal Point: Is Alcohol Liquid Courage? 9. Oh S#*%! We’re Stuck 10. Liminal Point: Drinking Helps Me Loosen Up and Have Better Sex 11. A Quest for Sobriety 12. Liminal Point: I Drink to Relieve Stress and Anxiety 13. The Mystery of Spontaneous Sobriety 14. Liminal Point: I Enjoy Drinking; It Makes Me Happy 15. Defining Addiction: Part 1 16. Liminal Point: Is Alcohol Vital to Social Life? 17. Defining Addiction: Part 2 18. Liminal Point: It’s Cultural. I Need to Drink to Fit In 19. The Descent: Why Some Descend Faster Than Others 20. Living a Naked Life in Our Society 21. This Naked Mind 22. The Secret to Happily and Easily Drinking Less 23. The Journey: ‘Relapse’ 24. Pay It Forward Dear Reader Endnotes Acknowledgements About the Publisher Photo by Anthology Fine Art ANNIE GRACE has had a unique life from the very beginning. She grew up in a one-room cabin without running water or electricity in the mountains of Colorado and then, at age twenty-six, became the youngest vice president in a multinational corporation. Success, however, led to excessive drinking and the possibility that she might lose everything. Annie recognized her problem but chose to approach it in an entirely new way. Annie’s program has been featured in Forbes , the New York Daily News , and the Chicago Tribune . Annie is successful, happy, and alcohol-free and lives with her husband and three children in the Colorado mountains.

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Praise

Preface

Introduction

1. This Naked Mind: How and Why It Works

2. The Drinker or the Drink? Part 1: The Drinker

3. The Drinker or the Drink? Part 2: The Drink

4. Liminal Point: Is Drinking a Habit?

5. You: Simply Naked

6. Liminal Point: Are We Really Drinking For The Taste

7. You: Polluted

8. Liminal Point: Is Alcohol Liquid Courage?

9. Oh S#*%! We’re Stuck

10. Liminal Point: Drinking Helps Me Loosen Up and Have Better Sex

11. A Quest for Sobriety

12. Liminal Point: I Drink to Relieve Stress and Anxiety

13. The Mystery of Spontaneous Sobriety

14. Liminal Point: I Enjoy Drinking; It Makes Me Happy

15. Defining Addiction: Part 1

16. Liminal Point: Is Alcohol Vital to Social Life?

17. Defining Addiction: Part 2

18. Liminal Point: It’s Cultural. I Need to Drink to Fit In

19. The Descent: Why Some Descend Faster Than Others

20. Living a Naked Life in Our Society

21. This Naked Mind

22. The Secret to Happily and Easily Drinking Less

23. The Journey: ‘Relapse’

24. Pay It Forward

Dear Reader

Endnotes

Acknowledgements

About the Publisher

PREFACE

3:33 a.m. I wake up at the same time every night. I briefly wonder if that is supposed to mean something. Probably not, probably just a coincidence. I know what’s coming, and I brace myself. The usual thoughts begin to surface. I try to piece the previous evening together, attempting to count my drinks. I count five glasses of wine, and then the memories grow fuzzy. I know I had a few more, but I’ve now lost count. I wonder how anyone can drink so much. I know I can’t go on like this. I start to worry about my health, beginning the well-trodden road of fear and recrimination: What were you thinking? Don’t you care about anything? Anyone? How will it feel if you end up with cancer? It will serve you right. What about the kids? Can’t you stop for the kids? Or Brian? They love you. There’s no good reason why, but they do. Why are you so weak? So stupid? If I can just make myself see the horror of how far I’ve fallen, maybe I can regain control. Next come the vows, my promises to myself to do things differently tomorrow. To fix this. Promises I never keep.

I’m awake for about an hour. Sometimes I cry. Other times I’m so disgusted that all I feel is anger. Lately I’ve been sneaking into the kitchen and drinking more. Just enough to shut down my brain, fall back asleep, and stop hurting.

These early mornings are the only time I’m honest with myself, admitting I drink too much and need to change. It’s the worst part of my day, and it’s always the same, night after night. The next day it’s as if I have amnesia. I turn back into a generally happy person. I can’t reconcile my misery, so I simply ignore it. If you ask me about drinking I’ll tell you I love it; it relaxes me and makes life fun. In fact, I’ll be shocked if you don’t drink with me. I will wonder, “Why on earth not?” During the day I feel in control. I am successful and busy. The outward signs of how much I drink are practically nonexistent. I am so busy that I don’t leave room for honesty, questioning, and broken promises. The evening comes, the drinking starts, and the cycle continues. I am no longer in control, and the only time I am brave enough to admit it (even to myself) is alone, in the dark, at three in the morning.

The implications of what it could mean are terrifying. What if I have a problem? What if I am an alcoholic? What if I am not normal? Most terrifying, what if I have to give up drinking? I worry that my pride will kill me because I have no intention of labeling myself. I am afraid of the shame and stigma. If my choice is to live a life of misery in diseased abstinence or drink myself to an early grave, I choose the latter. Horrifying but true.

What I know about getting help, I know from my brother who spent time in prison. Prison in the U.S. often involves Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) meetings. He says you start every meeting admitting that you are an alcoholic, powerless against alcohol. He says they believe alcoholism is a fatal illness without a cure. And I personally know self-proclaimed alcoholics who, rather than finding peace, fight a daily battle for sobriety. It seems miserable in our culture to be sober. To live a life avoiding temptation. Recovering appears synonymous with accepting life as just OK and adjusting to a new reality of missing out.

The idea of recovering seems to give alcohol more power even, and, maybe especially, when I am abstaining from it. I want freedom. It’s now clear that alcohol is taking more from me than it’s giving. I want to make it small and irrelevant in my life rather than allowing it more power over me. I want change. I have to find another way. And I have.

I now have freedom. I am back in control and have regained my self-respect. I am not locked in a battle for sobriety. I drink as much as I want, whenever I want. The truth is I no longer want to drink. I see now that alcohol is addictive, and I had become addicted. Obvious, right? Not exactly. In fact, in today’s drinking society, it’s not obvious at all. Admitting that alcohol is a dangerous and addictive drug like nicotine, cocaine, or heroin has serious implications. So we confuse ourselves with all sorts of convoluted theories.

I’ve never been happier. I am having more fun than ever. It’s as if I have woken up from the Matrix and realized that alcohol was only dulling my senses and keeping me trapped rather than adding to my life. I know you may find this hard, if not impossible, to believe. That’s OK. But I can give you the same freedom, the same joy, and the same control over alcohol in your life. I can take you on the same journey—a journey of facts, neuroscience, and logic. A journey that empowers you rather than rendering you powerless. A journey that does not involve the pain of deprivation.