Yomi Adegoke - Slay In Your Lane - The Black Girl Bible

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This eBook first published in Great Britain by 4th Estate in 2018

Copyright © Yomi Adegoke & Elizabeth Uviebinené

Picture section photographs: here, here, here and here by Dorothy Oginni; here, here, here and here by Tish Greenaway.

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Source ISBN: 9780008235628

Ebook Edition © July 2018 ISBN: 9780008235611

Version: 2018-09-13

For Yem, who taught me to ‘Slay In My Lane’ before I knew what it meant to, and for Yinks, who inspires me to do so daily, and more than she will ever know.

Yomi

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In loving memory of Ingrid & Sidwell, thank you for everything.

Elizabeth

Contents

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

Interviewees

Foreword by Karen Blackett

Introduction

‘It’s Always a Race Thing With Her’

Education

Lawyer, Doctor, Engineer

Black Faces in White Spaces

Work

Work Twice as Hard to Get Half as Good

Water Cooler Microaggressions

***Flawless

Getting Ahead

Independent Women

When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade

Representation

Being Susan Storm

Fifty Shades of Beige

#RepresentationMatters

Dating

Does He Like Black Girls?

No Scrubs

Health

Black Girls Don’t Cry

TLC

Afterword

Picture Section

Endnotes

Bibliography

Acknowledgements

About the Authors

About the Publisher

Ade Hassan MBE

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Afua Hirsch

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AJ Odudu

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Alexis Oladipo

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Althea Efunshile CBE

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Amma Asante MBE

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Dr Anne-Marie Imafidon MBE

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Bola Agbaje

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Charlene White

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Clara Amfo

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Dr Clare Anyiam-Osigwe BEM

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Cynthia Erivo

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Dawn Butler MP

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Denise Lewis OBE

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Estelle

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Florence Adepoju

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Funke Abimbola MBE

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Gemma Cairney

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Irene Agbontaen

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Jamelia

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June Sarpong MBE

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Dr Karen Blackett OBE

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Keisha Buchanan

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Lady Leshurr

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Lakwena

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Laura Mvula

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Dr Maggie Aderin-Pocock MBE

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Malorie Blackman OBE

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Margaret Busby OBE

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Melanie Eusebe

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Dr Nicola Rollock

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Patricia Bright

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Sarah-Jane Crawford

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Sharmadean Reid MBE

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Sharmaine Lovegrove

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Susan Wokoma

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Vanessa Kingori MBE

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Vannessa Amadi

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VV Brown

Teacher or nurse?

These were the only jobs that my career advisor at school thought I would be able to achieve. Both vocations are admirable and worthy, but come on, just two career options for a working-class girl from Reading?

I had several passions growing up in the UK as the second daughter of two Bajan immigrants. I loved sport, specifically athletics, and I loved travel. The excitement of going to the airport, getting on a plane and flying to a new destination was a very special and rare occurrence in my household. I treasured it. I also loved TV advertising as much as I loved the TV programmes. I would critique the ads, think about whom they were trying to talk to, and think of better ideas as to how they could get their message across.