Richard Bandler - Get the Life You Want

Edited by Owen Fitzpatrick

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Title Page Get the Life You Want Richard Bandler Edited by Owen Fitzpatrick

FOREWORD FOREWORD by Paul McKenna Years ago, a mobile phone was expensive to buy, difficult to use and the size of a small brick. Now there are phones that fit in the palm of your hand and you can not only use them to make calls but also to read e-mails, surf the net, and even watch TV. In the same way, Richard Bandler’s life work has transformed our understanding of the true capacity of the human mind. In my considered opinion, he is the greatest creative genius of personal change alive today. As proof, you need look no further than Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the field he developed almost 40 years ago. Once on the fringes of conventional psychology, NLP is now studied, taught and practiced all over the planet. For example, trained professional psychologists used to struggle to remove a patient’s phobia over a 6 month period. Now, by simply applying the techniques Richard has developed, most phobias can be completely eliminated in less than an hour and smaller, day to day fears can be eradicated in minutes or even seconds. Better still, Richard’s ‘psychological technology’ can be used to eliminate a wide range of problems quickly and easily and help anyone on their way to greater happiness and well-being. This book is a wonderful distillation of many of Richard’s best techniques. You can use them to help solve your problems, no matter how overwhelming they may seem, and to unleash your true potential. Over the years I have had the opportunity to witness Richard help tens of thousands of people transform their lives. Now, in this book, the real opportunity is yours. As you will soon discover, whatever you are working on or dealing with, this book can help you get over it, get through it or get to it! Paul McKenna

PREFACE PREFACE I have created behavioural technologies for four decades. When I first started out in the early 1970s, the field of psychology had its therapists and practitioners fighting about who had the correct approach. The argument seemed futile to me. Over fifty schools of different theories and applications failed to produce a single consistent result. I was born into the first age of information science, and am a mathematician and scientist by trade. So, I took a different road than psychology. I did not look for ‘what went wrong’ or the ‘whys.’ I did not look for cures. I looked at what worked, no matter how. If a few good therapists ‘fixed’ anybody, I looked at what they actually did. When people got over problems on their own, I looked at what had happened. The result is what is now called Neuro-Linguistic Programming – that is, a series of lessons that teach what others have learned that works. I must start out by thanking the psychiatrists that helped me originally. They provided me access to clients so that I could test my work. They gave me information on those rare few clinicians – like Virginia Satir and Milton H. Erickson – who got results. I also want to thank the courageous clients who let me teach them what I had found. For example, I looked at how more than a hundred people got over fears and studied what was common to them all. Then, I taught that process. Over these decades, I have refined and refined these procedures and, today, I believe they can help anyone to change their life. If you’re plagued with the past, stuck in a fear or just unable to get your mental motor running on time, this guide will offer a variety of ways to get your life in order. If you have spent too much time in therapy and too much money trying to do it yourself, this is for you. If you want to take control of your life, this will help you do this effectively. Just be very thorough. Do all the exercises and take careful account of the information you read. It will make a difference. I have broken this book into three pieces. The first part is called ‘Getting Over It.’ The second part is called ‘Getting Through It.’ The third part is called ‘Getting To It.’ Richard Bandler

INTRODUCTION

INVENTORY

THE POWER OF YOUR UNCONSCIOUS The Freeway to Change

THE QUALITIES OF YOUR THOUGHTS Submodalities

RUNNING YOUR OWN BRAIN Changing Neurochemistry

BUILDING NEW BELIEFS The Structure of Certainty

TIMELINES How You Mentally Code Time

Part 1 GETTING OVER IT

GETTING OVER Bad Suggestions

GETTING OVER Fears and Phobias

GETTING OVER Bad Memories

GETTING OVER Grief

GETTING OVER Bad Relationships

GETTING OVER Bad Decisions

Part 2 GETTING THROUGH IT

GETTING THROUGH Habits and Compulsions

GETTING THROUGH Recovery

GETTING THROUGH Resignation

GETTING THROUGH Big Events

GETTING THROUGH Tests (Exams and Interviews)

GETTING THROUGH Obligations

Part 3 GETTING TO IT

GETTING TO Fun

GETTING TO Love

GETTING TO Meet People

GETTING TO Important Duties (Taxes and Study)

GETTING TO Exercise

GETTING TO Be More Organized

GETTING TO Make More Money

GETTING TO Make Big Decisions

CONCLUSION

POSTSCRIPT From the editor

GLOSSARY OF TERMS

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Copyright

About the Publisher

Years ago, a mobile phone was expensive to buy, difficult to use and the size of a small brick. Now there are phones that fit in the palm of your hand and you can not only use them to make calls but also to read e-mails, surf the net, and even watch TV.

In the same way, Richard Bandler’s life work has transformed our understanding of the true capacity of the human mind. In my considered opinion, he is the greatest creative genius of personal change alive today.

As proof, you need look no further than Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the field he developed almost 40 years ago. Once on the fringes of conventional psychology, NLP is now studied, taught and practiced all over the planet.

For example, trained professional psychologists used to struggle to remove a patient’s phobia over a 6 month period. Now, by simply applying the techniques Richard has developed, most phobias can be completely eliminated in less than an hour and smaller, day to day fears can be eradicated in minutes or even seconds.

Better still, Richard’s ‘psychological technology’ can be used to eliminate a wide range of problems quickly and easily and help anyone on their way to greater happiness and well-being.

This book is a wonderful distillation of many of Richard’s best techniques. You can use them to help solve your problems, no matter how overwhelming they may seem, and to unleash your true potential.

Over the years I have had the opportunity to witness Richard help tens of thousands of people transform their lives. Now, in this book, the real opportunity is yours.

As you will soon discover, whatever you are working on or dealing with, this book can help you get over it, get through it or get to it!

Paul McKenna

I have created behavioural technologies for four decades. When I first started out in the early 1970s, the field of psychology had its therapists and practitioners fighting about who had the correct approach. The argument seemed futile to me. Over fifty schools of different theories and applications failed to produce a single consistent result. I was born into the first age of information science, and am a mathematician and scientist by trade. So, I took a different road than psychology.