Reenee Singh - The Intercultural Exeter Couples Model

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2 Title Page The Intercultural Exeter Couples Model Making Connections for a Divided World Through Systemic‐Behavioral Therapy Janet ReibsteinReenee Singh

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4 PART 1: The Model and Its Development CHAPTER 1: Introduction THE ORIGINAL EM THE INTERCULTURAL EXETER MODEL THE INTERVENTIONS OF THE INTERCULTURAL EXETER MODEL THE CULTURAL GENOGRAM: A KEY INTERVENTION THE CULTUREGRAM: A SECOND INTERCULTURAL METHOD OF INTERVENTION WHO CAN USE THE INTERCULTURAL EXETER MODEL? THE FORMAT OF THE BOOK NOTE CHAPTER 2: The Wider Context of the Intercultural Exeter Model CHAPTER 3: The Fulcrum of the Method THE INTERCULTURAL EXETER MODEL CIRCULARITY: A CBT/SYSTEMIC INTERVENTION CHAPTER 4: Clinical Practice with Intercultural Couples OVERVIEW SIGNIFICANT THEMES AND PROCESSES

5 PART 2: The Interventions PART 2A: The Systemic‐Behavioral Interventions CHAPTER 5: CircularitiesTHE IEM CIRCULARITY INTERVENTION; INTERRUPTING CIRCULARITIES; FINDING POSITIVES NOTE CHAPTER 6: Communication TrainingACTIVE LISTENING CLEAR AND DIRECT SIMPLE STATEMENTS ENCOURAGING POSITIVES “I” STATEMENTS PROVIDING CONTEXT FOR SAFE COMMUNICATION STRUCTURING PROBLEM‐SOLVING—HELPING COUPLES FIND A SOLUTION TO IDENTIFIED SPECIFIC PROBLEMS NEGOTIATION EMOTIONAL REGULATION IN PROBLEM‐SOLVING CHAPTER 7 Behavioral Action InterventionsENACTMENTS HOMEWORK TASKS/PRACTICING NEW FORMS OF COMMUNICATION CULTUREGRAM PART 2B: Systemic‐Empathic Interventions CHAPTER 8: Empathic Bridging ManeuversEMPATHIC QUESTIONING VALIDATION: USING INTERVENTIONS TO MAKE SOMEONE KNOW THEIR EXPERIENCES ARE UNDERSTANDABLE ELICITING VULNERABILITIES MAKING LINKS BETWEEN VULNERABILITIES CREATING SAFE SPACE NORMALIZING TRANSLATING MEANING CIRCULAR QUESTIONING BLAME REDUCTION CHAPTER 9: Life‐Space ExplorationsSCRIPTS GENOGRAM CULTURAL GENOGRAM INTERVIEWING INTERNALIZED OTHER ATTACHMENT NARRATIVES DEVELOPING SHARED FORMULATIONS OF CENTRAL RELATIONSHIP THEMES RECONCEPTUALIZING THE POSITIVES CREATING SHARED POSITIVES CHAPTER 10: A Final Word

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Janet ReibsteinReenee Singh

This edition first published 2021

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The public debut of the Intercultural Exeter Model (IEM) at the annual conference of the UK's Association for Family Therapy in 2017 was in the year that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement, and, with that, came a worldwide, populist interest, an interest not ever before so publicly recorded in the area of intercultural couples. This striking public attention put the focus on something we, the authors, along with others working in this field for years already knew: there is a dearth of either research on, or reports of, best clinical practice about working with couples of this sort. How do you do it and do it well?

Indeed, most clinical models of couples work do not even nod to the contribution culture will make to any of the myriad presenting conditions people need help with. Those clinicians working systemically will know that an exception has been within systemic theorizing (e.g., Falicov, 2014; Gabb & Singh, 2015b). Broadly, systemic theory explicitly encourages practitioners to be aware of culture, both pointed to in a general way and a more specified one by referring to the ways in which gender, race, religion, age, sexuality, ethnicity, and class shape experience (Burnham, 2012); and more particularly as a background to specific events in the Coordinated Management of Meaning (CMM) model that also denotes ways in which culture, events, and cultural beliefs contribute to people's reality (Pearce, 2007). However, despite this admirable emphasis on cultural context and consequence, therapists need more. There has been no systematic effort to translate systemic ideas that take into account a cultural perspective into working with couples. None has existed to enable the clinician both to focus on and utilize data about cultural differences in a theorized way, or even in a way that incorporates other existing clinical tools to adapt them specifically to address cultural differences.