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Indeed, it is believed that hysteria is a woman's prerogative. What is the reason for it? First of all, the same hormones! Women are very different from men in hormonal status. Their hormonal background is not only very diverse, compering to men, but also less stable, as it is subjected to a monthly shake due to the menstrual cycle. The main female hormone is estrogen, it is the main “builder” of a woman as a woman. And deviations in its hormonal system in one direction or another sometimes cause hysterical seizures, which are accompanied by shouts, sometimes aggression, crying, unpredictable mood swings, etc.

Most often it is inherited, but sometimes it is acquired. So, do not be scared, at first just wait till her "fit" is over, and then talk to her about it, pay her attention to health, especially to the thyroid gland, take care and bring her to the endocrinologist: let her pass the necessary tests and consult with a doctor what should be done if treatment is required.

Nowadays it is fashionable to have a slim figure, and men are proud of their fragile girlfriend and how gracefully she looks. However, it is also a trigger for the formation of hysterical nature. Why? A woman who denies proper nutrition and deprives herself of fats and carbohydrates does not support their necessary balance in the body, as a result of which her nervous system suffers. Simply put, her hysterics is the result of starvation, and only. This can lead to two the most fashionable diseases of our time: anorexia and bulimia, which are very difficult to cure, as not only physiology is affected, but also neurology and the brain. In fact, this is the same like drug addiction or alcoholism. So, think what is more important for you: a healthy and calm woman with a couple of extra kilos or an incurable hysterical woman with a thin waist, disgusting character and a sore head that torments you, your children and everyone around you with constant hysterics?

Sometimes banal fatigue is the reason for hysteria. A woman is often ready to take on too heavy burden, both physically and morally incommensurable with her capabilities, and as a result – hysteria! Help her, and maybe everything will be normal.

Sometimes hysteria accumulates as a result of sexual abstinence or lack of discharge. A man lives himself and believes that everything is fine whereas a woman suddenly explodes and attacks him with some false accusations, and only good sex can calm down the raging hysterical woman. A woman often refuses sex, saying that she has a headache, and does not think that her head can hurt due to lack of sex. Think about it!

In fact, there are a lot of reasons for hysteria. How to help your beloved when she feels bad? Try to understand her. Notice that at the very moment of the hysteria she, as a rule, openly begins to talk about what she was silent about and what she kept, what brought her to this state. Listen to her requests, expressed in such a way when you have the ringing in your ears. Believe me, she is no better now than you! Sympathize with her and try to show maximum attention to her problem, calm her with the words that you are near, and you are together, and everything will be fine with you, because you’ve heard her.

The most romantic morning is the first morning that you meet with your beloved. Take care of it in advance. There are several scenarios of the original and unforgettable morning for her, so as for you.

Prepare two identical T-shirts and mugs with your photos and the captions "My favorite husband" and "My favorite wife" in advance.

If this is a hotel, order breakfast in your room, and always with a bouquet of fresh flowers. They must be white! Congratulate and thank her for the warmth that she’s given you today, read the poems you learned beforehand, for example, this is a poem by Sergey Yesenin “Good morning”:

This morning scenario is simpler, but also quite memorable. Wake up a little earlier, make coffee for two with small toasts with butter and jam. Having woken up, first of all she’ll see the breakfast prepared by you. But the main thing in surprise will be the pre-ordered (this can be done remotely via the Internet) a call to her mobile from some famous character or a politician. The reason for a smile is provided!

Prepare an aromatic candle, a bottle of champagne, fresh strawberries and a can of cream in the evening. As soon as your sweetheart wakes up, you will be able to surprise her with a tasty drink and an unusual “breakfast”. Well, then you can combine, as your heart desires! The main thing is to know that if a girl has more:

– visual thinking – she likes to talk about love and relationships, often repeats the words “hear”, “speak” – it is better to read a poem about love or sing it (if you are, of course, ready and able to do it!);

– auditory thinking – she likes to be surrounded by beautiful things, likes to observe and often repeats the words “look”, “look like” – everything is important to be beautiful: flowers, a silver tray with beautiful cups or glasses, napkins and etc.;

– kinesthetic thinking – she likes to touch, to stroke and often uses the expression “I feel”, “it touches me”, etc., – things in her hands must be pleasant to touch: soft silk napkins, thin graceful spoons or a champagne flute.

Of course, it is impossible to write what girl belongs to what group, but if you look at your beloved carefully and listen to her words, you will understand how to act to make this morning unforgettable. The main thing to remember is all girls love the smell of freshness and purity!

And finally, a little more Sergei Yesenin:

For many men, especially guys who are under 35, this topic is absolutely irrelevant. Why? Because life priorities are clearly defined in a different plane: sex, hobbies and work. Therefore, the partner is being looked for these needs – she must be beautiful, sexy, interesting in communication, she should not be ashamed to show in society, go with her to the club or to hang out with friends.

But time passes, and the biological clock and logic turn on: how old will I be when my child goes to the first grade or when will he go through a transitional age? And will I be his authority?