Мэг Джей - Важные годы. Почему не стоит откладывать жизнь на потом

См. “State of Our Unions” / National Marriage Project, http://www.virginia.edu/marriageproject/.

См. J. M. Lindsay. “An Ambiguous Commitment: Moving into a Cohabitation Relationship” / Journal of Family Studies 6 (2000): 120–134; S. M. Stanley, G. K. Rhoades, H. J. Markman. “Sliding Versus Deciding”; W. D. Manning, P. J. Smock. “Measuring and Modeling Cohabitation: New Perspectives from Qualitative Data” / Journal of Marriage and Family 67 (2005): 989–1002.

См. S. M. Stanley, G. K. Rhoades, H. J. Markman. “Sliding Versus Deciding.”

См. G. K. Rhoades, S. M. Scott, H. J. Markman. “The Pre-Engagement Cohabitation Effect: A Replication and Extension of Previous Findings” / Journal of Family Psychology 23 (2009): 107–111; G. H. Kline, S. M. Scott, H. J. Markman, P. A. Olmos-Gallo, M. St. Peters, S. W. Whitton, L. M. Prado. “Timing Is Everything: Pre-Engagement Cohabitation and Increased Risk for Poor Marital Outcomes” / Journal of Family Psychology (2004): 311–318; G. K. Rhoades, S. M. Scott, H. J. Markman. “Pre-Engagement Cohabitation and Gender Asymmetry in Marital Commitment” / Journal of Family Psychology 20 (2006): 553–560.

Вы можете ознакомиться с результатами любых исследований по теме замыкания и межвременного дисконтирования, в частности: G. Zauberman. “The Intcrtemporal Dynamics of Consumer Lock-in” / Journal of Consumer Research 30 (2003): 405–419.

См. S. M. Stanley, G. K. Rhoades, H. J. Markman. “Sliding Versus Deciding.”

См. Masud Khan. The Privacy of the Self (New York: International Universities Press, 1974).

См. D. C. Rubin, T. A. Rahhal, L. W. Poon. “Things Learned in Early Adulthood Are Remembered Best” in Memory & Cognition 26 (1998): 3–19; A. Thome. “Personal Memory Telling and Personality Development” / Personality and Social Psychology Review 4 (2000): 45–56.

См. T. Habermas, S. Bluck. “Getting a Life: The Emergence of the Life Story in Adolescence” / Psychological Bulletin 126 (2000): 748–769; M. Pasupathi. “The Social Construction of the Personal Past and Its Implications for Adult Development” / Psychological Bulletin 127 (2001): 651–672.

Теме рассказа о себе как одного из аспектов идентичности посвящена следующая работа: D. P. McAdams, J. L. Pals. “A New Big Five: Fundamental Principles for an Integrative Science of Personality” / American Psychologist 61 (2006): 204–217.

См. A.Thorne, K. C. McLean, A. M. Lawrence. “When Remembering Is Not Enough: Reflecting on Self-Defining Memories in Late Adolescence” / Journal of Personality 72 (2004): 513–541.

См. B. Rime, B. Mesquita, P. Philippot, S. Boca. “Beyond the Emotional Event: Six Studies on the Social Sharing of Emotion” / Cognition & Emotion 5 (1991): 435–465.

См. D. P. McAdams, J. L. Pals. “A New Big Five: Fundamental Principles for an Integrative Science of Personality” / American Psychologist 61 (2006), 204–217.

Для детей очень важно, чтобы родители «видели» их и рассказывали им истории их жизни по мере того, как они взрослеют. Об этом можно прочитать в статье: R. Fivush, C. A. Haden, E. Reese. “Elaborating on Elaborations: Role of Maternal Reminiscing Style in Cognitive and Socioemotional Development” / Child Development 11 (2006): 1568–1588.

См. C. Anderson, D. Keltner, O. P. John. “Emotional Convergence Between People over Time” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 84 (2003): 1054–1068; G. Gonzaga, B. Campos, T. Bradbury. “Similarity, Convergence, and Relationship Satisfaction in Dating and Married Couples” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 93 (2007): 34–48; S. Luo, E. C. Klohnen. “Assortative Mating and Marital Quality in Newlyweds: A Couple-Centered Approach” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 88 (2005): 304–326; D. Watson, E. C. Klohnen, A. Casillas, E. Nus Simms, J. Haig, D. S. Berry. “Match Makers and Deal Breakers: Analyses of Assortative Mating in Newlywed Couples” / Journal of Personality 72 (2004): 1029–1068.

См. следующие статьи о различных типах сходства между партнерами: E. Berscheid, K. Dion, E. Hatfield, G. W. Walster. “Physical Attractiveness and Dating Choice: A Test of the Matching Hypothesis” / Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 7 (1971): 173–189; T. Bouchard Jr., M. McGue. “Familial Studies of Intelligence: A Review” / Science 212 (1981): 1055–1059; D. M. Buss. “Human Mate Selection” / American Scientist 73 (1985): 47–51; A. Feingold’s paper “Matching for Attractiveness in Romantic Partners and Same-Sex Friends: A Meta-Analysis and Theoretical Critique” / Psychological Bulletin 104 (1988): 226–235; D. T. Y. Tan, R. Singh. “Attitudes and Attraction: A Developmental Study of the Similarity-Attraction and Dissimilarity-Repulsion Hypotheses” / Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 21 (1995): 975–986; S. G. Vandenberg. “Assortativc Mating, or Who Marries Whom?” / Behavior Genetics 11 (1972): 1–21; G. L. White. “Physical Attractiveness and Courtship Process” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 39 (1980): 660–668.

О том, как сходство личностных качеств повышает удовлетворенность встречающихся или супружеских пар, можно прочитать здесь: G. Gonzaga, B. Campos, T. Bradbury. “Similarity, Convergence, and Relationship Satisfaction in Dating and Married Couples”; S. Luo, E. C. Klohnen. “Assortative Mating and Marital Quality in Newlyweds”; R. Gaunt. “Couple Similarity and Marital Satisfaction: Are Similar Spouses Happier?” / Journal of ‘Personality 74 (2006): 1401–1420; J. S. Blum, A. Mehrabian. “Personality and Temperament Correlates of Marital Satisfaction” / Journal of Personality 67 (1999): 93–125; A. Caspi, E. S. Herbener. “Continuity and Change: Assortative Marriage and the Consistency of Personality in Adulthood” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 58 (1990): 250–258; R. W. Robins, A. Caspi, T. E. Moffitt. “Two Personalities, One Relationship: Both Partners’ Personality Traits Shape the Quality of their Relationship” / Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 79 (2000): 251–259. В следующих статьях идет речь о том, что сходство личностных характеристик не всегда является признаком удовлетворенности партнеров своими отношениями: K. S. Gattis, S. Berns, L. E. Simpson, A. Christensen. “Birds of a Feather or Strange Birds? Ties among Personality Dimensions, Similarity, and Marital Quality / Journal of Family Psychology 18 (2004): 564–574; D. Watson, E. C. Klohnen, A. Casillas, E. Nus Simms, J. Haig, D. S. Berry. “Match Makers and Deal Breakers.”

См. H. J. Eysenck. “Genetic and Environmental Contributions to Individual Differences” / Journal of Personality 58 (1990): 245–261; S. Luo, E. C. Klohnen. “Assortative Mating and Marital Quality in Newlyweds.”