Carl Tropper - Suburban Wives and Their Sexual Infidelity

The Vanderbilt's problem is a somewhat unusual one, though it is not the first such case I had heard of. They have to choose between two possible alternatives in coming to grips with the problem.

First, Mr. Vanderbilt could begin to undergo a period of psychoanalysis. The analyst would have to probe deeply into his mind and discover the original conflict which went unresolved and is now creating Mr. Vanderbilt's strange lust. This is a process which would take perhaps seven years. It would be quite costly, and the realization of the source of his problem would not guarantee Mr. Vanderbilt his freedom from the desire to witness his spouse engage in anal intercourse.

The second alternative would be to continue on present course. The Vanderbilts are mature adults, with a considerable degree of insight into their problem. If they can maintain a friendship with the Thompsons, who are equally understanding of the situation, they might very well be able to live perfectly harmonious sexual lives. It would be far different from the norm, but that is irrelevant as long as it is satisfying to the four adults.

The latter alternative appears to be the best for the Vanderbilts at this time, and they have already begun to enjoy their sexual lives together, with the assurance that their behavior is acceptable.

There is a great deal that must be learned about this sexual “habit” before any general theory can be formulated. At this time very little is known. The whole question of motivation comes to my mind, and as you now see after reading these six cases, motivation differs from person to person.

It was generally assumed that people who engaged in swapping were bored sexually with the person they were married to. As we have seen, this does not have to be the case, although it is the case in many instances. However, a great many times, it does not apply at all.

Many happily married couples engage in swapping, and even they are not sure why. I myself can only venture a very unscientific guess, one which is entirely subjective and not based on any empirical fact. That is, people feel the overwhelming need for change in their lives.

This need for change will prompt different people to do different things. In these cases, it has prompted the various individuals to seek the sexual company of other persons' husbands and wives. And, within the context of those relationships, it has prompted them to try various types of sex play that may ne new to them.

Many people who come to me say they would never dream of doing certain things with their own husbands and wives. There was one man who said he would never ask his wife to have anal intercourse with him. He said it wouldn't be proper. That is why he engages in swapping. When he is with someone else's wife he doesn't hesitate to ask the woman to have anal intercourse with him. The same was true of another man who wouldn't perform cunnilingus on his own wife.

We have seen this in the two female cases, also. Priscilla's and Cathy's needs for anal intercourse could only be satisfied outside of marriage, by swapping partners.

One thing I have found out though, and that is that people are hard to categorize. There is usually something about an individual that makes them unique. That is why general theories are so broadly defined: they have to be.

They searched anywhere and everywhere for couples to swap with… Friends or relatives, it made no difference.

His body was still hard and strong, and this woman, his wife's friend, appealed to more than his mind-she appealed to his hands, his mouth, his manhood-she was exhausted from the hours of sex, but still eager-and she let him take her again-and again.