Alexander Borodin - Non vowel resources of some good mood

As Alvin Toffler wrote roughly (who worked as an installer, according to his biography, he chose a profession to learn about life, and therefore had the moral right to write about it), people learn to communicate and live together, you can only add that they learn this or even relearn how to live in a new, called civilized world, because in the old everything was clear – he killed, took the prey of the one he killed, or they killed you and took your prey, etc.

Not yet come, the times when robots or something else will do everything for everyone, not all problems have been solved by science, progress and other institutions, so a collision with a considered hostile (not pleasing) force is inevitable, almost everyone will pass to a greater or lesser extent and this will go through until civilization reaches the level of development when these forces are controlled or cease to exist at all, that’s just the problems that arise when confronted with this force, each solves his own mu. Say what you like, there are fewer and fewer clashes with this hostile force, which is called life circumstances, but nevertheless it still exists, thanks to scientific achievements it becomes easier, but easier, probably only physically and not for everyone.

Does modern man have one problem – unfulfilled desires? The one who is not fascinated by anything, is not disappointed in anything? Do people prefer comfort?

Cognitive dissonance is a state of mental discomfort of an individual caused by a clash in his mind of conflicting ideas: ideas, beliefs, values, or emotional reactions. Cognitive dissonance – two types of thought processes, one of which interferes with the other.

The rivalry between the emotional, intellectual and physical causes chaos inside a person if there are no ways to realize emotions and physical needs, especially if a person is one of those who are called emotional and temperamental, and if emotions also collide, they collide in this way, for example, as a struggle between fear and the desire for something or someone, then the mind begins to hang on snot,and if there are still a bunch of needs that you don’t know how to satisfy, it’s hard at all, a complete mental imbalance begins – emotions say «Satisfy us», physical needs say «Satisfy us», intellect says «Stop», you don’t know what to grab and what to do, how you don’t know what to do, tearing mother of a dying calf between instincts to be with him or to catch up with herd, abandoning its dying offspring, it turns out like in Ivan Krylov’s fable – a swan pulls a cart in one direction, a pike in the other, a cancer in the third.

Everyone lives in a modern world in which emotions and instincts should be blocked, and it is believed that this is a payment for civilization, because emotions and instincts prevent you from concentrating on work, and without work there is no progress, without progress there is no civilization, and who wants to be washed in dirty form in a hut in the absence of civilization to satisfy their instincts and emotions? Or some need to satisfy their instincts and emotions for quality work for the benefit of civilization, so what to do?

Psychologists and psychiatrists are those who know what kind of person the state (government) needs, but do not know what kind of person they need for themselves? A person whom everyone, as is now customary to say, is «bred» (deceived) and who has a problem because of this, doesn’t need a psychiatrist with a psychologist, but a specialist in countering «divorce», for example, a lawyer? In some cases, if not in all, is it better to let loose those emotions and instincts for those who have them, so that they do not interfere with a quality life and so that they do not subsequently incite to actions called inappropriate? There are actions that can develop endorphins, but psychologists and psychiatrists don’t talk about them, can they be told only, for example, in the family, by parents – to children?

Psychologists and psychiatrists are trying to create the maximum psychological comfort for each person, but so that the methods of achieving this comfort for the person do not interfere with the lives of other individuals, therefore, as already mentioned, neither the psychologist nor the psychiatrist will give advice that will help one, but with This, according to the psychologist or psychiatrist, will harm another, but modern trends are going in a different direction, Overton says a lot about it, whose works can be found on the Internet.

A departure from the topic of conversation in order to relax: if someone has not passed psychological tests when applying for a job, this does not mean that he will not pass the tests anywhere, and no one needs him, different tests have been developed for different professions, and in case of failure to pass a test, for example, for the civil service, we can say that a failed test is not needed only in the civil service, and not everywhere it becomes unnecessary (again we emphasize that the tests are different everywhere), and that it is not in the civil service needed, then this is up to a certain point (this info a mission for those who really want civil service), it is not needed when there are many who want to take a seat, but with a shortage of personnel, the testers are ready to close their eyes to a lot, if the conversation is about the army, the medical board is ready to close their eyes to a lot, in the case when there is a recruitment of new recruits for the war, because for well-known reasons there are not so many who want to get there. By the way, as a rule, «army» tests are aimed at identifying anxious individuals, such a state is not interested in the quality of soldiers (again, in the event that there are an excess of necessary candidates), this will still be discussed, if you are anxious, then self-realization should not be realized in the army sphere.

If you believe the information received by the author, then it was Neil Miller who identified four types of motivational conflicts, each of which can play a role in the emergence of what is called stress.

Conflict of approximation – approximation. This conflict arises when a person seeks to achieve two desired goals that cannot be achieved simultaneously. For example, he is trying to choose which of the two films to watch. Or he chooses whether to enter a prestigious institute or get a profitable place. Conflicts of proximity – approximations are usually resolved relatively easily. Conflict of avoidance – avoidance. This conflict takes place when a person faces two unpleasant situations, and avoiding one situation leads to a collision with another. For example, a woman with an unwanted pregnancy may, for moral reasons, resist abortion – in this case, both the birth of the child and the termination of the pregnancy are undesirable. Conflicts of avoidance – avoidance are very difficult to resolve, and they create a strong emotional tension. Conflict of approach – avoidance. This is a situation in which one event or activity carries both attractive and repulsive features. Achieving the desired at the same time leads to exposure to the unwanted, while avoiding the unwanted is associated with the rejection of the desired. For example, the dilemma of a student who is offered an illegally obtained copy of the final exam. Deception will cause guilt and humiliation of self-esteem, but at the same time provide a good assessment. Conflicts of proximity – avoidance are very difficult to resolve. Multiple conflict of proximity – avoidance. A person needs to choose between two jobs: one is prestigious, promises a high salary, but involves a longer working day and moving to an area with an unfavorable climate; the other offers great opportunities for advancement, better climatic conditions, but low wages and an indefinite duration of the working day. This is an example of a multiple conflict of approximation – avoidance, a situation in which it is necessary to make a choice between several alternatives, each of which has both positive and negative sides. This is the most difficult conflict to resolve, partly because it’s difficult to compare individual aspects of the alternatives, for example, how good the climate is better than the indefinite duration of the working day or to what extent the chances of quick progress compensate for the low starting salary.