Nick Bracks - Move Your Mind

At this stage, I felt like my life was finally on track. I was starting the new app business with a great team and investors on board. I was getting comfortable with acting, Neighbours was going well and I was also in a two-year relationship and in love for the first time in my life.

But within two weeks, a chain of events completely out of my control knocked me for six. Things abruptly ended with my girlfriend, and one of my businesses was in turmoil. Despite spending two years creating the company, putting everything I had into it and launching it successfully, there was an internal issue out of my control that caused the business to break down.

Suddenly, I was seeing years of my work go down the drain. Plus, I was dealing with my first heartbreak. I felt like it was going to break me and I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I was losing hope and finding it difficult to overcome the emotional pain.

But rather than hide from the feelings and block them out, I decided to draw on what I had previously learned and embrace them. Yes, I felt like I'd lost control of everything, but I wanted to feel all the pain and use the time to reflect. So, I drew on my daily habits by embracing my exercise, meditation and alone time — things that were all fully in my control.

I started small, took baby steps and focused on the process. Gradually things got better and I found that I grew in ways I didn't think I would. For example, I can safely say if I hadn't had the daily habit of exercising, I wouldn't have been able to make it through that period in a sane manner. I knew that no matter how bad the day was (and most were bad), I could exercise at least once every single day. And I knew that this would always put my mind at ease, allow me an hour or so of not thinking about anything other than moving, and, without a shadow of a doubt, leave me feeling emotionally and physically significantly better than when I began. This experience really reinforced just how important exercise (and other daily habits) are in our daily wellbeing.

Now, as I write this book, I look back on the car crash, the humiliation and all the dangerous situations I've put myself in, and I believe it's essential to face fears and go through pain to grow. Until you can learn to live with discomfort, I don't believe you can be the best version of yourself.

Fear is important because it leads to happiness. Failure is important because it leads to success. You need to look at failure not as failure but as learning. If you can reframe your mindset to see two possible outcomes when approaching a new task — I will either learn something (instead of viewing it as failure) or I will achieve my goal — then you'll be in a better mindset and more willing to take risks and grow. I tell myself that it will be uncomfortable at the beginning but if I can stick to it, things will get easier. And they always do. Once you can grasp this, you'll become so much better equipped to improve yourself.

There's no right or wrong way to go about anything and you need to learn to trust yourself, to trust your gut. Everyone has an opinion and they're often projecting their own insecurities onto you when offering advice. If you can simplify things and work out what you value, what you're passionate about and what you want to dedicate each day to doing, then the rest will work itself out.

Remember that you can't control what will happen in the future, but you can control what you decide to do and where you want to put your attention right now — and that's all you can ever control.

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